NWDude83 wrote:
First of all: everyone there was fine except for that chubby idiot.
Second: HE THREATENED ME FIRST. Read my post again!
Third: I tried difussing the situation and calming him down. Only when it looked like I had no other option but to scare him from a fight, did I say the first thing that came to my mind.
Fourth: looking back on what happened, I certainly would have done a couple things differently.
Fifth: If anyone one of us "gestured" like we were gonna pull a gun on a cop for example, we would not be alive to talk about it.
My friend. I would suggest you heed the words of those who have posted comments-- especially marinepilot81.
I'll see if I can elaborate on what seems to be the general consensus.
First of all: everyone there was fine except for that chubby idiot.
OK. What would have prevented you from walking away from said idiot? I mean... as soon as you realized he was beligerent, why not just get away from him without needing to exchange words?
Second: HE THREATENED ME FIRST. Read my post again!
We did read it. It seems that the general consensus is that the threat was not great enough to bring up the possibility of him getting shot. If anything, the consensus is that you escalated the situation SIGNIFICANTLY by your choice of response. Again, I ask... why did you not just remove yourself from said idiot?
Third: I tried difussing the situation and calming him down. Only when it looked like I had no other option but to scare him from a fight, did I say the first thing that came to my mind.
You tried to calm him down AFTER suggesting the possibility that he would get shot. To me, it seems that you have a -10 and a +1. Still negative. Often the first thing to come to mind is the wrong choice.
Fourth: looking back on what happened, I certainly would have done a couple things differently.
Of that, I have no doubt.
Fifth: If anyone one of us "gestured" like we were gonna pull a gun on a cop for example, we would not be alive to talk about it.
I have no idea what this is about... so I leave it without a comment.
My friend... please don't get defensive about this. I am with the consensus where I see how this could have been handled better. So what? There are MANY things in my life that I wished I could have handled better. There will be more in the future.
Hopefully, this has been a learning experience for you. But we only learn from our mistakes when we are mature enough to acknowledge that the mistake was indeed a mistake. That thar's some personal growth.
Hang in there, and understand that those commenting are trying to look out for your best interest.
-- John