I bought a couple of firearms behind my wife's back before.
A S&W .357 and a Yugo SKS.
Then, my wife died rather suddenly in June of '05 about three months after I secretly bought the Yugo SKS.
Can you even imagine how I feel about that now that I have no way to make it right?
Now, my personal tragedy aside, let's look at this issue and it's possible consequences.
Doing things like making secret purchases behind your mate's back is a betrayal of trust. Plain and simple, there is no way to justify it even if your mate buys things behind your back. A betrayal of trust is a betrayal of trust regardless.
No matter how it is justified or who is to blame, (if one or both parties begin playing the blame-game,) it negatively impacts the relationship. It can eventually lead to divorce.
Any kind of betrayal, no matter what form it takes, is a type of relationship cancer. If ignored, it may just grow as time wears on and get worse. Little betrayals tend to add up and fester and get bigger as time goes by. It will never get better on it's own until it is exposed and excised.
Love and Trust is the glue that binds a happily married couple together.
And betrayal is the one solvent that can instantly dissolve one or both parts of that glue.
A happy marriage cannot be maintained when trust is betrayed.
It can only be repaired.
And that if, and only if, both parties are able and willing to forgive and forget with no more questions asked after all the dirty laundry is aired.
Then begins the oh-so-fun process of re-building the trust that was broken.
This post is not intended to guilt trip you, it's just something to consider before traveling down that road.
As kind of an after thought, I'd like to pose one simple little question, if I may:
If your better half was taken away from you permanently and suddenly, could you live with yourself knowing you had little secrets you were keeping from them?