How to tick off your wife when buying her a handgun.

[wideym]

I was a Academy sporting goods store yesterday returning a bow case and natually wandered over to the gun section. There I saw a young man in his early 20s with his equally young wife. They were looking at pistols and overheard him talking about buying his wife a pistol for protection. He then proceed to tell her she wanted this little .22mag 3 1/2inch derringer like pistol.

The conversation goes like this:

Husband: See this is perfect for you.

Wife: I want an automatic.

Husband: You won't like an automatic and this will fit in your purse.

Wife: I know I don't like this puny little thing and I can fit any two of those pistols in my purse!

Husband: We've already discussed this!

Wife: You already discussed this, I did'nt get a say! I should have never told you I wanted a gun!

This goes on for a few minutes more until they both leave in opposite directions. I tried to suggest to him politely that if it was going to be her gun she should pick it out and was forcefully told to "go **** yourself".

Apparently the wife saw this and apologiesed for her husbands behavor and told me that after seeing "that woman who saved her church" on TV wanted to be able to protect herself and her family.

I don't think they will be together much longer if her husband keeps treating her like child who doesn't know any better. After all "what mama wants, mama gets".

 

[xd45gaper]

he is probably just a cheapo and doesnt want to buy her a 500$ semi auto lol!


finally after 5 years my wife wants a gun! but i have to dura coat it freaking PINK!!! lol i was thinking about getting her a kel tec 380 but she said it was ugly and really likes my smith 642 only bad thing is the heavy trigger!

 

[jcramin]

Well I had a TALK with my wife too when she wanted to take her Handgun Carry Permit class and she made sure I understood that she wanted a KIMBER. So the day before her class I came home and surprised her with a Kimber Tactical Pro II. I am still happily married

J

 

[Chipperman]

Sad. If I could get my wife to carry a gun, I'd buy her anything she wanted.
... even a Glock.

 

[4v50 Gary]

Hubbie was being very patronizing. He should have let her choose her own gun. After all, she's an adult.

 

[Geno]

The last place I will ever place myself is between a husband and a wife. That can get ugly real fast!!! I once saw my LEO BIL end up having to arrest the wife who called to report her abusive husband who had just bloodied her nose/mouth. As soon as he put the handcuffs on him, she came unglued.

UUUUUUUgly!

Doc2005

 

[MustangHowie]

I let my wife pick out all of her own guns. There have been a few that I didn't agree with, but I told her if you want it get it. She found out that the ones I didn't think she would like, she didn't like. She listens to me now, but she still gets what she wants, not what I want her to get. Good for her.

As for the couple in the store, maybe she should pick her own gun and maybe even a different guy. If he really wanted her to have a gun for protection it wouldn't be a 22mag. She needs to be comfortable with what she picks. If she wants an auto, get it. Take her out and teach her how to use it if she doesn't already know.

 

[Klusterbuck]

When she talked to me, I'd have suggested she go shopping without him....
Then I'd have left.

If he wanted to tell me to go f myself, I'd just tell him "if I could do that, I wouldn't be shopping."

And walked away....

 

[redneckrepairs]

Well i trade guns a bit , and my sweet bride of 26 years just poaches what she wants out of what cycles thro lol .

 

[armoredman]

I tried the "picking out a gun for my wife" routine. That was expensive, went through 4 revolvers and two autos, until SHE picked out what SHE wanted.

 

[556nato]

I let my wife pick out her own carry pistol. She ended up with an XD-40 subcompact. Then a PSL. The madness never ends...

 

[wuchak]

Oh to be so young...in love...and stupid. Hopefully he'll learn something from this shopping experience.

 

[Officers'Wife]

HI Wide,

Every wife handles their husband their own way. Most of the time you have to put up with the nonsense so they can feel they are doing the best for you (in their opinion.)

Don't worry, she's probably inexperienced and doesn't have the play book tweaked yet is all. In the end, I'll bet she got what she wanted in her own way.

Selena

 

[cmidkiff]

Refer to Kathy's excellent article 'How to make your wife hate guns'...
http://www.corneredcat.com/Men/wifehateguns.aspx

This guy must have read it, and is attempting to apply all of her suggestions.

Can't fix stupid. Between a man and his wife is a place I never want to be. He'll either figure it out, or she'll find someone who will.

I can only pray that one day I'll have the opportunity to allow my wife to select her carry gun... when that time comes, she can have anything she wants, regardless of price. She's worth far more to me than any pistol she might choose.

 

[andyjason]

that man sounds like my mother-in-laws second husband. that man is as cheap as the day is long. he has traded more nice guns in and got cheap pos with the money from them. and she hasn't had much very nice since.

 

[wuchak]

I'll be she got what she wanted in the end too. I'm reminded of the scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding when the Mother says, "The man may be the head of the household but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants."

 

[Prof. A. Wickwire]

When my beloved expressed interest in owning a handgun, I told her that the licensing would not cost her a penny and that her first pistol was my treat.

In New York State the licensing process runs about $120. She picked a Ruger Bearcat as her first pistol. Eventually, if she wants to start carrying, I will buy her something a bit more serious.

Women and Cats will do as they please, so Men and Dogs better get used to it.

Sincerely,

Prof. A. Wickwire

 

[seeker_two]

Sad. If I could get my wife to carry a gun, I'd buy her anything she wanted.
... even a Glock.

Same here. I'd even sell my self into slavery & get her a gold-plated Python if she'd carry it occasionally....

She picked a Ruger Bearcat as her first pistol. Eventually, if she wants to start carrying, I will buy her something a bit more serious.

I have an acquaintance who carries a Bearcat as his "always" gun. He had the cylinder reamed out to .22MAG. Never felt undergunned with it....

 

[The Unknown User]

Refer to Kathy's excellent article 'How to make your wife hate guns'...
http://www.corneredcat.com/Men/wifehateguns.aspx

ROFL

Thanks for sharing that.

I hate guys who talk down to their significant others like that. Seriously, guys like that make women hate the male gender.

 

[xsquidgator]

I think Pax's advice was spot on - the lady should select what she wants. I had to bite and bite my tongue when my wife decided to get her CCW. I really really wanted her to get a compact 9mm, but after trying a bunch of pistols she decided on a S&W Model 638 in 38+P. I'm glad I'd read "Cornered Cat", because after reading it I realized it was *me* that wanted another compact 9mm, not her. It would have been wrong to force her choice on such an important and personal purchase. And even if she didn't buy what I would have chosen, I'm very fortunate that she came around to not just supporting me on CCW but actually went and got one herself. If the situations were reversed, I'd find it REALLY irritating for someone else to tell me what I need to get (it's bad enough when some twit at the gun counter insists on doing this).

 

[The Unknown User]

I think it's natural. But that urge or feeling being natural doesn't necessarily make it right.

I think any one of us could make the same mistake by trying to guide a loved one to a given product. Some of us would hold our tongue without really saying anything, and some of us would probably have to apologize after a short argument.

 

[1911RjB]

LOL,

Great story, Unlike you i don't know if i could have contained my self when the guy to me to go f myself, i might have cracked him.

My wife can pick out her own gun when ever shes ready she's already been looking at my 2008 buyers guides... lol... soon.. i feel it..

 

[xpun8]

When I was shopping with my wife for her first handgun I became worried that she'd want one for each outfit or purse. We went to the range and rented just about everything they had. She liked the results of XD, the looks of a Kimber carry, and the ease of operation of a SP100. I told her I'd buy her what she wanted, but I only had the money to buy one at this time. She talked to her friend who carries and asked questions of the guy at the range. She ended up getting a XD40SC, which hasn't been duracoated pink camo yet (I'm hoping she forgot they can do that) about 2 years later. Since then she has fired a few guns that she's been interested in. My buddies superslick 1911 has caught her eye. It's funny how the things that are important to her have changed a little bit. She is more interested in how well she shoots with something instead of how it looks and is able to ask questions.

 

[Working Man]

told me that after seeing "that woman who saved her church" on TV wanted to be able to protect herself and her family.

I have seen, read, and heard more people along these lines since that has happened
than any other incident. I am soooo very glad that she was there and took the action
that she did. I believe that it really has changed many lives outside of the people that
it directly affected (was there or included a loved-one).

When any girl I'm with wants a gun I just lay out an assortment and tell her to pick a
few to try. We hit the range and she sees what she likes. Many of them like the .45 ACP.

 

[jeepmor]

The guy is a dumbbutt and there will soon be a gun friendly 20 something girl on the market. Was she cute? Listen up single guys if you intend on having a happy marriage.

I'll take the girl's side here, a 22 mag is not my first pick either.

Some punk telling me to go eff myself would have been met with an equally cordial response, like, "you mean, with this, you first" as I affectionately touch my hip implying my holstered CCW but never exposing it. That statement alone tells us a whole lot about this fellow.

Doesn't sound like the girl has the maturity problem here.