Of course women can (and do) shoot whatever they want. What I meant by a "wife gun" is that many women are not confortable shooting big caliber guns, I´d go as far as saying that women are an absolute minority among all firearm enthusiasts. It is also common for a more experienced husband to help his wife choosing a pistol. Women have smaller hands, smaller frame pistols (like the .380s on today´s market) fit their hands more confortably than in the hands of a man.Non-wife? So I suppose women can't shoot big manly calibers? Hmmm, THR Moderator Emeritus PAX (Kathy Jackson) is a long time handgun instructor and shoots whatever she darn well pleases. THR member Springmom has a Ruger SRH in 44 Mag that she shoots pretty darn well http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=235543. I reckon I should just PM these two ladies, and get their respective husbands' e-mail adresses.
You just read too much into my "non-wife" comment.
I appreciate your comments. My point is that, for me personally, all .380s currently in the market come in small, light, backup configurations, and I happen to dislike that kind of pistols. Preference for grip and frame sizes are largely a personal issue, so far all the kind suggestions I was given in this thread are smaller than what I am looking for. Me and others have pointed out that because of the inherent characteristics of the 380acp, perhaps there is little reason for a big pistol in that caliber, which brings us back to my difficulty in finding one.Seriously there's more too it than "non-compact, non-backup..." in a large frame .380. [...] Fact is many folks run into problems that make them unable to use a large caliber or ultra small/light handgun.[...]You've got to keep your options open and get a gun that fits what you want or many times need.