I have a J-frame square-butt Pachmayr Presentation grip I bought to put on a 31-1 snub...and the grip looked bigger than the gun!
I took it off and put a Compact Pachmayr on it, much more in proportion.
So I would say the Pach Presentation grip would be a good choice. I have large hands too, the grip fit me perfectly, but it was too darn big, visually.