First hello, and welcome to the forum.
If and until your uncle teaches you both about gun safety, I'd suggest you take on that responsibility yourself, as you and no one else has the primary responsibility for the safety of your child.
As a resource, check with the NRA to see if they either have a local program and/or instructor to at least teach you, so you can teach your son. Then again they might have someone to teach their Eddie Eagle program as well.
Here is a link to the program, and info, so contact them;
http://eddieeagle.nra.org/
The Eddie Eagle GunSafe® Program
National Rifle Association
11250 Waples Mill Road
Fairfax, VA 22030
(800) 231-0752
[email protected]
Lastly, you might be able to cajole your uncle into showing you both, but I'd be dubious how well he might do with a 4 year old. As a responsible gun owner, he should be willing to do something safety wise. Then again he might have grown up with guns like many of us did, and not feel like he must provide nanny state recommendations for his own family.
Regardless tread lightly on what you want, and make sure it comes across as a request rather than a demand, as it sounds like you are a guest and need them more than they need you(i.e. no rent paid, etc.).
"They don't want to lock up and unload their guns which is their right,"
No, that is not a right, maybe a privilege. It most likely is against the law, to keep firearms un-secured with children in the house.
For pistols, there are lots of quick access lock boxes available.
While it might be the responsible thing to do, keep in mind these are older people who sound like they took in their niece in a time of need. She must be very delicate in the way she comes across, and certainly not be demanding or start talking about the law and such. Remember she is a guest, and assuming she does not have other means of housing at the moment, one solution might be to ask her to leave if she becomes a burden to them.
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