moooose102
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My wife hates guns
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ChCx2744
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Do what you want to do. Love is important, but with love must come understanding and acceptance...Without understanding and acceptance (both are EXTREMELY important) then your relationship will wither...I am sure you can already feel it...It is almost as if you can measure your relationship in distance once those 2 feelings are out the window...If guns are important to you, stick to what you prefer...Nobody should have to change who they are and nobody should try to change anyone else..
Why do you let a woman make you afraid and want to hide??
This is not good for you, physically or emotionally.
If you allow her such power over you, you will only see her get worse and more controlling.
Why would you be in such a marriage?
Sorry to be harsh, but you need to man up.
Claude Clay
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develop a fear of colorful shoes.....
when ever you see any outside of a securly locked closet have a mini-melt down----
"....but one of them could go and attack my instep, or.......i'm scared of even knowing they are here in our house. and all the accessories you are endlessly buying for them. don't you see how frightened i am of them. if you loved me you would stop having them in my house.
when ever you see any outside of a securly locked closet have a mini-melt down----
"....but one of them could go and attack my instep, or.......i'm scared of even knowing they are here in our house. and all the accessories you are endlessly buying for them. don't you see how frightened i am of them. if you loved me you would stop having them in my house.
I didn't see anybody else suggest this (sorry if I missed it), but last month I went to Front Sight with my wife for my birthday. My wife has never had anything against guns, but a lot of other guys were there with wives who had never shot a gun before and were terrified of them. By the end of the course, all of them felt safe and competent with the gun they were using. Depending on what you have in your area, a course could run from a hundred or so to a couple thousand for a multi-day course. It's a lump of cash, but might be worth it. Made for a great vacation for me.
Yes, my wife and her family are exactly the same. She once told me that our children would never know I owned guns. She was wrong. I often take the older two shooting. Both are daughters, and enjoy it as much as I do.
My wife fired a 22 pistol once, and could not get the pistol back to my hand fast enough. That was just before we were married. She has not touched one since.
My wife fired a 22 pistol once, and could not get the pistol back to my hand fast enough. That was just before we were married. She has not touched one since.
how did you come to the wedding part without her freaking out? Or did you just "deal" with it cause you thought it would be different? I learned that when a girlfriend tries to change you, your job, your hobbies, the only thing that needs changing is her. but you are married, so now your stuck. Well, go to counseling. that is the best advice I can give you.
She is getting angry and making you feel like crap because you love a hobby. That is abuse at least. Passive aggressive abuse non the less. Take it from experience, go to counseling. If that don't work you got 2 choices. divorce, or give up guns.
Mikey- I wish I could carry on synagogue grounds. Not allowed in GA. Great story there.
She is getting angry and making you feel like crap because you love a hobby. That is abuse at least. Passive aggressive abuse non the less. Take it from experience, go to counseling. If that don't work you got 2 choices. divorce, or give up guns.
Mikey- I wish I could carry on synagogue grounds. Not allowed in GA. Great story there.
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Cactus Jack Arizona
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My wife and I've been married for 19 years.......yes, to each other for that long. Over the past three years, our family has seen new additions. Both pistols and rifles have found a home with us.
The only time my wife is uncomfortable around guns is when we go to the range and she tries to shoot with sinus pressure. Other than this, she loves her little P-22.
Try to get her to go to a CCW class. One can overcome fear through education. If she refuses, then it is time to seek counseling. Counseling may be needed anyway to break through the anti-gun brainwashing that we are constantly being pelted with from certain politicians and media.
If this doesn't help, it might be time to pack up all your guns and ammo...........................and move them into the closet space where your wife used to keep her clothes and shoes.
Over the past three years, our family has seen new additions. Both pistols and rifles have found a home with us. The only time my wife is uncomfortable around guns is when we go to the range and she tries to shoot with sinus pressure. Other than this, she loves her little P-22.
Try to get her to go to a CCW class. One can overcome fear through education. If she refuses, then it is time to seek counseling. Counseling may be needed anyway to break through the anti-gun brainwashing that we are constantly being pelted with from certain politicians and media.
If this doesn't help, it might be time to pack up all your guns and ammo...........................and move them into the closet space where your wife used to keep her clothes and shoes.
AStone
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I've been following this thread for days.
I'm consistently sitting somewhere between bemused and annoyed.
NOT with the OP - I truly emphasize, sir - but with some of the advice.
(No, I'm not interested in discussing which advice; to each their own.)
But IMO, a big part of the problem can be summed up in one word: marriage.
You don't "marry" = legally bind yourself for life to friends, business colleagues,
professors, grocers, insurance sales(wo)men, mechanics and gardeners.
Why would you bind yourself for life to a lover?
That's insanity. People change. Love the one you're with (Stephen Stills),
then if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, say, it's been fun, have a good life, and leave.
"Oh, but what about the kids?"
Speaking only for myself - I truly hope your experience was different - I was subjected to an entire childhood in a dysfunctional family. Good people everyone; all meant well. Lot's of love on an individual basis. But put mom and dad together, along with in laws and select other relatives, and it was ... well, not pleasant. Scars still exist.
Looking back, I wish they'd have divorced. I'd have been much better off.
I tried marriage once. Only once. Never again.
I've had more love, erotic excitement and guns in my life than the average Joe.
Really, people. Marriage was set up by others to control your life.
We rail against gun control. Have you never considered "lover control"?
I mean, if some group told you that they were working on legislation that would restrict you to one gun for life, and that once you choose, you are legally bound to stay with it, regardless of how well it shoots, whether it's meeting your needs, etc, and that changing your mind later could cost you every thing you own, would you support it?
IMO, we need to quit being slaves to marriage. We need to explore other ways of being together.
If I were in a relationship with someone who "hates" guns,
I'd find another lover who loves them as much as I do.
Disclaimer: ymmv. If marriage works for you, then I say go for it. You have my best wishes.
But for the rest of us ... well, it's the 21st century. I'm ready for something different.
I'm consistently sitting somewhere between bemused and annoyed.
NOT with the OP - I truly emphasize, sir - but with some of the advice.
(No, I'm not interested in discussing which advice; to each their own.)
But IMO, a big part of the problem can be summed up in one word: marriage.
You don't "marry" = legally bind yourself for life to friends, business colleagues,
professors, grocers, insurance sales(wo)men, mechanics and gardeners.
Why would you bind yourself for life to a lover?
That's insanity. People change. Love the one you're with (Stephen Stills),
then if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, say, it's been fun, have a good life, and leave.
"Oh, but what about the kids?"
Speaking only for myself - I truly hope your experience was different - I was subjected to an entire childhood in a dysfunctional family. Good people everyone; all meant well. Lot's of love on an individual basis. But put mom and dad together, along with in laws and select other relatives, and it was ... well, not pleasant. Scars still exist.
Looking back, I wish they'd have divorced. I'd have been much better off.
I tried marriage once. Only once. Never again.
I've had more love, erotic excitement and guns in my life than the average Joe.
Really, people. Marriage was set up by others to control your life.
We rail against gun control. Have you never considered "lover control"?
I mean, if some group told you that they were working on legislation that would restrict you to one gun for life, and that once you choose, you are legally bound to stay with it, regardless of how well it shoots, whether it's meeting your needs, etc, and that changing your mind later could cost you every thing you own, would you support it?
IMO, we need to quit being slaves to marriage. We need to explore other ways of being together.
If I were in a relationship with someone who "hates" guns,
I'd find another lover who loves them as much as I do.
Disclaimer: ymmv. If marriage works for you, then I say go for it. You have my best wishes.
But for the rest of us ... well, it's the 21st century. I'm ready for something different.
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