BullfrogKen
Moderator Emeritus
I'm not convinced Protective Orders do anything constructive. But they will make someone already emotionally involved in the circumstances, like an ex-spouse, even more pissed off.
How close are you to this young lady? Not geographically, but how personally involved are you in her life?
The reason I ask is women who leave abusive relationships are used to living that role. And women who enter them often go into them, and stay in them, because they chose to. She's going to have to take independence in areas of her life she never had to before. This particular decision is a very personal one, and she's going to have to take the lead in it.
Normally I recommend folks let their girlfriends, wives, sisters, whoever pick out their own handgun based off of their preferences, after having handled many different makes and models. That takes time.
You're telling us she doesn't have that time.
OK. But she has to be willing to take the lead on this process.
Without knowing you my preference would be to encourage you to steer this lady friend to a neutral, uninvolved, informed third party to help feel her out and guide her through this process. There are reasons why rescue-type organizations are more successful in getting women to break free of abusive relationships than friends and family.
But if this is an arms-length friendship, you might be able to help her.
Visit Kathy's site. Ask her to visit Kathy's site. If she comes to you with the right attitude, help her along the path. A 3" barrel steel J-frame is an easy, cheap, effective system to learn.
Steve and Xavier have some good thoughts here.
But you, yourself need to be aware of the risks of involving yourself in this lady's life, too.
How close are you to this young lady? Not geographically, but how personally involved are you in her life?
The reason I ask is women who leave abusive relationships are used to living that role. And women who enter them often go into them, and stay in them, because they chose to. She's going to have to take independence in areas of her life she never had to before. This particular decision is a very personal one, and she's going to have to take the lead in it.
Normally I recommend folks let their girlfriends, wives, sisters, whoever pick out their own handgun based off of their preferences, after having handled many different makes and models. That takes time.
You're telling us she doesn't have that time.
OK. But she has to be willing to take the lead on this process.
Without knowing you my preference would be to encourage you to steer this lady friend to a neutral, uninvolved, informed third party to help feel her out and guide her through this process. There are reasons why rescue-type organizations are more successful in getting women to break free of abusive relationships than friends and family.
But if this is an arms-length friendship, you might be able to help her.
Visit Kathy's site. Ask her to visit Kathy's site. If she comes to you with the right attitude, help her along the path. A 3" barrel steel J-frame is an easy, cheap, effective system to learn.
Steve and Xavier have some good thoughts here.
But you, yourself need to be aware of the risks of involving yourself in this lady's life, too.