If you are really a revolver guy, you would know that the shape of a bullet has very little to do with recoil. A full-charge 150 grain wadcutter has the same recoil as a 150 grain bullet of any other shape.
5 grains of Unique behind a 150 grain wadcutter makes a 38 snub into a flame thrower.
i am not discussing the bullet shape, but the whole, commercially-sold, cartridge. i am not a reloader. in my s&w 642 airweight, wadcutters are more comfortable to shoot and thus my shots are more accurate. ymmv.