Just looked at the Springfield XD 9MM and it looks pretty good too. Now I dont know what i like lol. Springfield XD or Smith and Wesson M&P.
Anyone have both those kinds or have had them and can give me info on either one?
Since your all mixed up anyway....check the Springfield 9mm XDm.....and while yer at it the XDm 45.
I'm trying reeeaal hard trying to justify another pistol myself right now! Damn nice gun...even with my small hands.(with the smallest back strap of course)
I know the 19 rounds per load, the smaller grips, the cheap ammo, and cheap reloads of the 9mm are hard to resist....but I still do.
Only Zombies scare me a lot. I'm referring to drug addicts who feel no pain (until they runout of drugs), and have brains depleted of intelligence, remorse, compassion, or reason. Ask any cop. They know them well. With them, there are accounts of 12 shots of .45 (police rounds) being needed to stop a big one. I know...placement... but when the adrenalin is surging and/or you're already wounded.... that same thug, might use up every bit of an XD or XDm's 19 round 9mm load. (unless you can get lucky, and put one between the eyes, with your hands shaking)
Okay, as to your original question...for self defense...there's a reason that many police departments went to .40 S&W from 9mm. There's also a reason Gaston Glock created the .45 GAP. There's also a reason the special forces started taking bigger guns into the caves of Afghanistan. (the same reason the army learned in the Philippines to spec a bigger caliber handgun for future engagements...which they forgot after WW2).
So, given your choices, IMO, I'd
learn to shoot (and reload) the .40S&W well, in spite of its recoil and blast, over having the 9mm as an only gun. That said, I think they are great at the range to learn to shoot with. If I can learn to shoot a Kahr CW40...anyone can. It has been dependable, super small and is as light and comfortable to conceal-carry everyday as any 9mm. But .45 ACP is my choice at home and in my automobiles.