Pulled My Gun on a Woman Last Night - (Long)

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Things usually happen faster than you might think….

I was on my way to the grocery store to exchange an empty propane tank for the gas grill, last night, when it all happened. I was about three miles from the house when I saw flashing blue lights coming off of the main highway (close to a half mile away) and coming toward me, then another police car with lights flashing behind him. There was a vehicle in front of them passing a car, and I decided to pull over to the side of the road to allow the police easier passage. As I was concentrating on avoiding the ditch and trying to get to a parking lot entrance, the truck came through my lane and hit the ditch a few yards in front of me. I was still rolling at a slow speed when the two suspects jumped out of the truck and I saw them running in front of my car.

I didn’t even think about it as I hit the gas and accelerated forward. The male suspect was far enough ahead of me that I concentrated on blocking the female suspect. She hit the front, left fender of my car, and started begging me to let her in and to “help her”. I want to say it was at this time, she started telling me that he picked her up on the side of the road and didn’t know what was going on (first thing I asked myself was, why was she running?). She reached for my car door, which was unlocked, and I moved the car forward about ten feet to get her hand off of the handle, so I could lock it. She came back up to my window and continued to try to get into my car and still asking me to help her. I noticed that she didn’t have any form of weapon in her hands, or I would have just pulled away, and kept driving to a more safe location. Shortly after I realized she didn’t have a weapon, she started to run around to the passenger’s side of my car. I realized that after putting the propane tank on the floorboard of the passenger’s side, I had left the door unlocked. She got to the door, and tried at the handle as I was hitting my automatic door locks on my side. As I determined later, I had automatically locked the passenger’s door when I locked my door, but not thinking clearly, and not in the habit of ever really using the passenger’s door and having to worry about locking it, I had inadvertently UNLOCKED the door.

The female opened the door, and was trying to get into the car while fighting with the propane tank that was blocking her entrance. It took me a split second to realize that she was getting in, so as she is trying to get past the propane tank, I dropped open the glove box door and pulled out my loaded Bersa .380 ACP that had one in the chamber and had the safety on. Interesting note, the gun wound up in my left hand (furthest away from the suspect), but with the left side safety, and being in my left hand, it was difficult trying to get the safety off. I don’t think she realized I had a gun in my hand, and pointed at her, as she begged with me to go, as “They won’t know I’m with you”. I told her, several times to get out of my car and made her take note of the gun aimed about chest level. She still didn’t want to get out of the car, and kept begging for me to get her out of there and to help her. It seemed like a minute, but I finally got her out of the car.

While standing there with her, I don’t know how long it was, but eventually a Sheriff’s patrol came by. The three city patrols were in the pursuit of the male suspect, and had left me with the female (Thinking of it now, I don’t think they realized that there were two people in the truck). I waved the Sheriff Deputy down and informed him that she was the passenger, and that I had a CWP and had a pistol in my front left pocket (when I determined that she wasn’t much of a threat, I put the gun in my left pocket, and kept her on my right side). I said this with both hands raised above my shoulders. He asked me, again where the weapon was, and, with hands higher above my head, I confirmed that it was in my front pocket. He took my pistol from my pocket and placed it in the passenger’s seat of my car. The female suspect told the deputy that the guy picked her up on the side of the road and she didn’t know what was going on. At this, the deputy jumped back in his car and drove behind the buildings to assist the other officers in finding the male suspect.

So, here I am, outside of my car with a suspect, disarmed by a Deputy Sheriff, and without a police officer to be seen. The female kept wanting a light for her cigarette, was trying to see if I had a lighter in my car (I told her I don’t smoke), and she kept wandering away from my car, and further away from the police cars. I kept telling her that she needed to stay there and not leave. She kept up with the story of being a victim, and I told her that she needed to tell the police officers, but she appeared to be more interested in just leaving.

I tried to keep my conversation with her to a bare minimum because I didn’t want her to rehearse a story of lies, but I was a little concerned when she was talking about going back to the truck to get her things, as she had a lighter in her bag. Not having my sidearm, and not having any authority to do anything, I kept trying to talk her out of going down to the truck, but she eventually started down to it. I followed her, but was leery, as I didn’t know why they were being chased. I was thinking that maybe it was drug related, or that she was a victim with drugs in her possession, and I watched her to make sure that she didn’t dispose of any evidence. She grabbed her pocket book and a lighter to light her cigarette and then came back up toward my car. It wasn’t until later, last night, that I realized that she could have easily been retrieving a weapon, instead of her bag and lighter (remember, I was unarmed, at this time).

When back near my car, she started complaining about being cold and wanting to get into my car. I did NOT want her in my car, and I sure didn’t want her getting into my car with the gun being in my passenger’s seat. I told her several times that she can not get into my car, but when she started getting closer to it, I made sure that I had my car keys in my pocket and then proceeded to lock my car doors, so she couldn’t get to my gun.

It seemed like ten minutes after the Deputy Sheriff left before another officer arrived. I had grown tired of entertaining this woman and trying to prevent her from doing anything. I walked the woman over to the officer and told him that she was a passenger in the vehicle. He acted surprised by his tone and expression and radioed to another officer that she was there and they could question her.

It turned out the truck was stolen and the woman was the guy’s mother. The son had gone around a few buildings, ran across the street, and entered the church that was having night services. The congregation ended up detaining the suspect and informing the police.

Thinking of everything since it happened, there are several items of interest that I’ve thought of.

1) I could have easily been involved in a head-on collision, had I not been thinking to assist the police by pulling off the road.
2) I didn’t have my car door locked, and should have.
3) If I was not aware that she was there, similar situations could have ended up in me easily being car-jacked
4) Not thinking clearly, and despite owning the car for ten years, I accidentally UNLOCKED my car to allow her to access
5) My firearm was not easily accessible, and had she wanted to and was faster, we could have fought over the position of my weapon
6) Fortunately, the propane tank was on the floorboard of my car, hence hindering her entrance to my car.
7) I was disarmed by an officer, and then left alone with a suspect, which left me vulnerable
8) It is difficult to take a left-sided safety off when the handgun is in your left hand
9) As my company has a policy of no weapons on their property, I may have been “lucky” that this occurred on a weekend when I have a gun in my car.

There are several other concerns and facts of this night that I am now thinking of, over-and-over, but these nine stick out in my head. I am glad nothing bad happened, but I actually am kicking myself for not being more prepared, mostly, because I was not more ready with my firearm. I am also a little surprised that the officers did not detain the female earlier and left me with her. I almost feel that they didn’t know there were two of them. The police weren’t far behind me, maybe three seconds, as the lead officer has my car on video as I went to block the female, and he has the male on video as he rounded the corner of the building that was only 30-40 yards from where I’d blocked the female. Anyway, I have a few things to think about for a while.
 
I would have immediately armed myself upon the Sherriff's departure.

Other than that, I don't know, I don't think I would have gotten as involved as you did, I'm not sure.

If that was a male trying to get in the car, would you have shot? Or drove off? I would have drove off and called 911 to report the female and what she was wearing and looked like and that she tried to get into my car.
 
I'd file a complaint with the Chief of Police.

Of course, I would have also rearmed myself (or not allowed myself to be disarmed).
 
let's get this straight..

you get invoved in a pursuit, attempt to detain the female which ends up sticking around to you like a magnet... for whatever reason, maybe just playing innocent (and she is if the driver just took off with her in the car).

Then the cops eventually come and take your gun while leaving it in your car in plain view, with the female outside and run off to chase the other person....

and the gun is sitting there with the woman outside. :uhoh: :what:

next time i would recommend you just stay away. cops never appreciate civilian assistance and the only thing it brought you is getting symbolically disarmed and left with a potential criminal...
 
The male suspect was far enough ahead of me that I concentrated on blocking the female suspect.

Hindsight is 20/20, but had anything unhappy taken place your tush likely would've been on the grill. You willingly involved yourself in the incident when it was not reasonably necessary for you to do so. Why, Mr. DA or Civil Attorney might ask, did you try to block in the victim/client instead of leaving the scene, and thereby initiate a chain of events leading to the victim/client's injury?
 
NineseveN said:
I would have immediately armed myself upon the Sherriff's departure.

That the first thing I thought, but after a second thought better. That may not be to good of an idea when the officer returns, I think he did the right thing by simply locking the doors.
I am surprised though that the officer left her there.

jojo
 
OK here it goes:
The biggest thing you should have done was to listen to your wife.:D
1. Drive 1.5 min to the store at the end of the road.(NOT the one 30 min away.)
2. Exchange gas cylinder.
3. Return drive home 1.5 min.
4. Cook my steak.
That way we could have fixed and ate dinner in 15-20 min instead of 2 hours.:what:
 
7) I was disarmed by an officer, and then left alone with a suspect, which left me vulnerable
That was pretty dumb (on their parts, not yours).

I would have retrieved the weapon immediately, since it is now laying there for her to grab. Of course, as soon as the cops returned I would have reaffirmed that I was a CWP holder and that I was armed.

What it sounds like was a cluster****, which happens. Suspects don't always do cooperative things. This one sure di-

Hmm. Literally as I typed this, I figured out what might have been going through the deputy's mind. He, not knowing that there were two suspects, might have misunderstood or not fully appreciated that the female you had detained was not, in fact, a passenger of your car, but instead a passenger in the suspect vehicle. Yes, yes, you told him that, but in the midst of a chase the old tunnel vision and auditory exclusion kicks in...he saw a CWP holder, who was not involved, surrendering himself and babbling something about "his" passenger, and as soon as he "determined" that you were no threat, or as soon as he heard his partner screaming for help a few hundred yards away, he gave you back your weapon and left. HARDLY ideal, for the very reasons you noted, but it makes a certain amount of adrenalin-soaked sense. Again, that's all guesswork, but if you take it as a given that the cop didn't grasp the relationship of the female to the suspect vehicle, it all suddenly clicks. Maybe. You were there...could that be what happened? Or did the deputy say/do things to lead you to believe that this was not the case?

Of course, I would have also rearmed myself (or not allowed myself to be disarmed).
I'm not a Texas LEO, but I imagine that the first idea would be legally defensible, given the circumstances. Your parenthetical suggestion is a decidedly bad idea, especially given the chaotic nature of what was going on.

Mike
 
You do not want to insert yourself into a situation where the cops are chasing somebody whether you're armed or not. You have no idea what's going on and the cops don't know who you are. If you want to help, observe, make notes, etc. Anything more is just asking for trouble.
 
NineseveN said:
If that was a male trying to get in the car, would you have shot? Or drove off?
I’m not exactly too sure what I would have done. I’m actually surprised as to how little thought I put into going after them, especially knowing that the cops were only 3-5 seconds behind me. I do remember thinking that if I caught one, it would be easier to get both, because I figured she knew the guy. It’s easy to second-guess, but I don’t know what I’d done if it was a guy, or even had she been acting differently.

solareclipse said:
next time i would recommend you just stay away. cops never appreciate civilian assistance.
Sometimes it seems like far too many people do this, especially when some of them can actually help. The arresting officer thanked me, at least, five times, as did two other officers. Two told me not to worry about pulling the gun on the woman and that I had a right to protect myself. One of them even suggested charging the woman with attempted car-jacking, and I may let them pursue that further. The arresting officer took down my very detailed statement, complimented me on the details, and told me that if the woman starts acting stupid on the charges, he’ll probably need me to go to court, of which I told him I’d be happy to do.

Missashot said:
That way we could have fixed and ate dinner in 15-20 min instead of 2 hours.
It was still a really good steak, though, and besides, I was trying to get to the record store for the CD you are wanting, before they closed.

Conach said:
He, not knowing that there were two suspects, might have misunderstood or not fully appreciated that the female you had detained was not, in fact, a passenger of your car, but instead a passenger in the suspect vehicle.
I don’t know what he thought. I just figure he wasn’t concerned with the woman, for some reason not known by me, but I did think, on several occasions, that they were not aware that there was more than one person in the truck. If this was the case, and I didn’t at least stick around as a witness, she may have gotten away without anyone knowing of her involvement.

I did think of rearming myself when I was left alone with the female, and I really wanted to, but I wasn’t sure of any consequences if the deputy came back with a chip on his shoulder. I was a little overwhelmed trying to keep my eye on her and trying to make sure that the male suspect didn't come back around and try car-jacking my car or a police car, as all the officers were around the building and in the woods behind the building.
 
Why the hell did the Sheriff take off? He was already WAY behind the suspect. Others were in pursuit. Unless he had a police dog with him, or was on the Kenyan Olympic Track Team, what possibility was there that he could really "help"?

It's bizarre that he would leave a suspect -- her claim that she was just an innocent hitchhiker was hardly substantiated -- with a civilian bystander. He had one of the people they'd been chasing. At the very least, she could describe the suspect if they too her into custody for a while.

Furthermore, her behavior, while perhaps typical for a young whiny white trash chick, was bizarre and really begged for further investigation.
 
Got lucky. That's why I always, always have the doors locked when driving. And...wow, what competent cops, leaving her with you.

Oh, unrelated note, general safety thing. For the same reason that stores won't let you bring a propane tank in the store, it's waaaaay safer to put it in the trunk, never, ever, ever in the vehicle cabin. If the valve went bad, there's a chance you wouldn't have time to even pull over before being overwhelmed by propane displacing enough oxygen to cause anoxia, and then you'd likely hit something at driving speed with a cabin full of flammable air/gas mixture.

That'd be very bad.
 
Why the hell did the Sheriff take off? He was already WAY behind the suspect. Others were in pursuit. Unless he had a police dog with him, or was on the Kenyan Olympic Track Team, what possibility was there that he could really "help"?
He got in his car. Cars go faster than people travelling on foot. Still wasn't a terribly bright idea, but when you hear your coworker yelling for help over the radio (which I suspect happened), the temptation to drop everything and go get in the fight is hard to resist. Especially if you don't fully grasp what was going on with the woman (which I also suspect happened).

Mike
 
Coronach said:
He got in his car. Cars go faster than people travelling on foot. Still wasn't a terribly bright idea, but when you hear your coworker yelling for help over the radio (which I suspect happened), the temptation to drop everything and go get in the fight is hard to resist. Especially if you don't fully grasp what was going on with the woman (which I also suspect happened).

Mike

Doesn't sound like his head was on quite straight that evening. Maybe the male suspect was considered dangerous. That would change things.

But it is strange that he didn't cuff her. Did he even check her for weapons?
 
ArmedBear said:
But it is strange that he didn't cuff her. Did he even check her for weapons?
He barely said anything to her, didn't check her for any weapons, and pretty much left as soon as he put my gun in the car. I don't remember hearing anything over the radio that caused him to jump back in his car, either, but I wasn't paying attention to his radio. There were some homes beyond the small area of trees, and I figured he was going to drive into the neighborhood to see if the male suspect was too far ahead of the other officers. I'm probably going to contact the police department tonight and ask them a few questions, out of curiosity. One officer mentioned about charging her with attempted car-jacking, so I may discuss that possibility with them, also.
 
Why would you want to bust her for attempted car jacking? It doesn't appear that she was in fact trying to jack you. On the surface, it looks like she was afraid and looking for help.
Biker
 
pharmer said:
You had the opportunity to extricate yourself, next time MYODB. .02 please :cool: Joe
I have to say that this is sound advice. I would've let it go unless it appeared that the woman needed help.
Biker
 
Biker said:
I have to say that this is sound advice. I would've let it go unless it appeared that the woman needed help.
Biker
Yes, hindsight tells me that I did many things wrong, and those things could have led to miserable results had some of the circumstances been different. Then, again, it seems like far too many people in today's society do just that, and I have a natural tendency to help others when I can, which includes the police. I do know that if someone stole my car, or hurt a family member, or did me or someone in my family wrong, I sure hope that anyone who can help will step in. I won't tell you what I think of people who stand by and do nothing.

I want to contact the first responding officer, as several questions and concerns have come to light as I think about and discuss what happened. The main two are that I want to know if they actually realized that the woman was with with the man and why I was left alone with a suspect, especially after being disarmed.

Now, lets just assume that everyone just decided use pharmer's philosophy last night......Let's have some fun and throw in that none of the officers realized the woman was with the guy, it was pharmer's truck, and he/she just took full coverage off of the truck because he/she made the last payment on it. So, we'd have.......the woman walks away from the scene with no one knowing she was associated with the guy, she reports her purse missing/stolen from Walmart, the male suspect hangs out with the church congregation and walks away with a smirk on his face, pharmer winds up with a damaged truck that he has to pay for out of his own pocket with no one to hold responsible for, and our two socially respectible people are able to continue about their days stealing from you and me.......Yeah, I would really love it if everyone would just MYODB. The world would be a much better place. :rolleyes:
 
I'm not second guessing you man. I just wouldn't get in between some cops and a chase-too many ways for the thing to go south. Like I said, if it appeared that the woman needed help though, I'd do my best.
Biker
 
Doesn't sound like his head was on quite straight that evening. Maybe the male suspect was considered dangerous. That would change things.

But it is strange that he didn't cuff her. Did he even check her for weapons?
Right. This is why it is all adding up, to me, to be a case of the cop not knowing that the chica was A Part of The Whole Mess. I agree, the cop either didn't have his head screwed on straight, or he just plain missed the posters explanation of what was going on. Either way, he goofed.

Mike
 
I agree, the cop either didn't have his head screwed on straight, or he just plain missed the posters explanation of what was going on. Either way, he goofed.
Not only that, but who stayed with the suspect vehicle? I've seen this happen several times; officers get into that tunnel vision, hot pursuit mode, kind of like dogs chasing a deer, to the exclusion of all else, and suspect circles back, jumps back in vehicle, and another, unnecessary vehicle pursuit begins. Unless it's the direst of situations, someone ALWAYS stays with the vehicle! If nothing else, disable it. About 10 yrs ago, we had a vehicle pursuit of armed robbery suspects that turned into a bail and foot pursuit. There were only two of us, backup still 3-4 minutes away (LONG time in that situation!), and I took just long enough to make sure my knife flattened both front tires before running after them.

We train for the unexpected, including the "X Factor" of citizens getting involved, but it still isn't a good idea. From the officer's point of view, things happen very fast, and he has to analyze several situations and threat levels at the same time if others get involved. The more confusion, the more dangerous it is for all involved. I truly do appreciate a citizen's intent when they want to get involved; they've saved my backside on a couple of occasions, but unless life saving intervention is necessary, it's better for all if they don't.
 
There are some disturbing things from the viewpoint of safety:

1) gun in glove compartment
2) habitually unlocked car doors
3) propane gas tank in passenger compartment
4) getting involved in a police pursuit, especially while armed

Good thing you did not get hurt, but you might want to reevaluate your stategy.
 
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