I've done a lot of soul searching about both bugging IN and bugging OUT. Even though I've prepared to bug OUT, it would only be done as a last resort option. Also, I have three pre-planned bug OUT destinations....the first is only a short distance from my home in the suburbs, the second is roughly 60 miles away, and the third is close to 200 miles away. If you notice, I didn't mention "driving times" from my home, for it will take much longer to drive just about anywhere if the SHTF.
By choosing to bug IN, I have a mental checklist of things that I will do after any major incident. The first thing is to brew a fresh pot of coffee while watching the televised news. Second will be to prepare a good meal while listening to news radio broadcasts. Third will be to pull out all of my maps, and mark the effected areas. Fourth will be to relax while mentally assessing the overall situation. Fifth will be to check on several neighbors that I've discussed "survival" plans with in the past.
As you can see, I'm not going to be in a rush to go anywhere, and I definitely won't be playing "follow the leader" during the first phase of hysteria.
Also, as you can see, I'll have food in my stomach and caffeine in my system, so that I'll be alert and well fed IF it becomes necessary to bug OUT.
Also, by bugging IN, at least until it becomes absolutely necessary to bug OUT, it might give me plenty of time to "harden the target" of my home. It will also give me some time to prepare my home for an easier return trip, in case bugging OUT becomes necessary. Besides, no matter how many scenarios you have run through, the REAL THING won't be exactly what you have prepared for, so by trying to stay calm, last minute adujstments can be made logically and reasonably.
Above all, DO NOT PANIC! Just because it looks like everyone is moving OUT doesn't necessarily mean that YOU have to "follow the leader"! Sit down, figure out what exit highways and side roads are clogged with traffic, then try to come up with viable alternate routes, even if it means a longer journey for you. I'd much rather have to drive, even at a slow pace, than to sit on a clogged "parking lot" of a highway!
Lastly, if push comes to shove, I think that most of us will agree that a certain amount of "looting" might be necessary....but I don't mean hauling out plasma-screen TV's or designer clothing! Water, food, sanitary items, gasoline, first-aid items....
they're pretty much "fair game" necessities that you might NEED to "borrow" along the way, and would fall into the category of being "reasonable".