Depending on what you are going to use it for there is very little difference in recoil in the 357 or the 44, depending on how it is loaded and the weight of the gun. If you reload either can be reloaded from "mild to wild" and even with commercial ammo you can get almost the same range.
The 460 is definitely a special purpose gun and for someone who is an experienced handgun shooter. Even with the standard hunting length barrel it is a hand-cannon. It is strictly a hunting round or as a back-up weapon if you are going to be in BIG BEAR country and are willing to either carry a very long barrelled hand-gun or are able to handle the recoil of the short barrel versions which have been designed for such use.
Btw, my first handgun was a 4" Model 19 S&W. In a heavier gun, say an S&W L/N frame or the Ruger or Dan Wesson it would have been an fairly easy to shoot round, even in the heavier loads, in the K-frame Smith, however, the .357 definitely lets you know you have some power in your hands.