You don't start a recoil sensitive shooter out on anything harsh.
I didn't start her there Jester! Didn't you read my post. She loves the gun! At the end of the session, she kept shooting and didn't want to leave. I bet you never guess which gun she was shooting? It was the shotty!
I couldn't stop her from shooting it! She loves the thing! What part of that didn't you understand there fella?
By the way, I never said she was recoil sensitive. I said she was reluctant to shoot the gun. It is louder than my 30-06. She is a big enough girl that can take a recoil and not have a problem with it.
The bottom Line:
I did what I knew my wife needed, and that was for me to egg her on. As well as encourage her to learn. I told her it kicked, but I didn't tell her I let it kick me hard because I was not holding it properly. I just showed her the proper way to hold it, and it still kicked her.
She has been my wife for long enough, to know, that I would not do anything to her, that would harm her, to a point of injury.
I can't tell you how many potential shooters have been ruined by someone trying to help them get over the pain of recoil. It just doesn't work that way, and you didn't do your wife any favors.
I had her shoot it twice! I believe she needed to feel it! I wanted her to see what the thing kicks like, so that she won't be surprised in a situation, that requires smart thinking, and not whencing from being kicked.
She told me she also wants her own hand gun next, and to sign up for a CCW permit class.
So, whatever method you choose, know your student! I have the same result as many others who have shown their wives and they loved it. My wife was raised with 4 brothers. She can kick all of their butts, without breaking a nail. If I was to treat her like a little foo foo girl, she would have thought I was crazy!
If I were taking out your sister, or your wife, or your mother, to teach them to shoot, my methods would not have been the same.