I understand the construction vs whats being shot through it part and agree for the most part. If you are shooting a steady diet of +P+ 9mm through a gun not rated for it, you should see accelerated wear.
Although as a Glock armorer, you must have seen the battering the 357SIG's and apparently, the .40's get to the underside of the slides from the loading block impacting it. Mine was pretty beat up, and to the point of having "burrs", where the couple of 17's I have, that have had a lot of +P, +P+ and hot reloads through them, only show some minor finish wear in the same spot. Not exactly sure what that means, but from looks alone, it looks like even the "hot" 9mm, is easier on the guns.
Now my SIG's, never showed any accelerated wear with the 357SIG, and I had more rounds through them than I did my Glock. My SIG 9mm's dont seem to have any problems with the hot ammo either, but they dont have the rounds through them my Glocks do.
When I first started shooting the 357SIG, I was really gung ho for it , and thought it was the next best thing to sliced, light bread. Now after living with them for about 8 years, and shooting them regularly, I really dont see a whole lot of difference between it and the 9mm, especially with certain loads, and I can shoot more for a good bit less money, which for me, is a better thing.
As far as the "amount" of ammo thing. These days, with ammo being as close in performance as it is between the major calibers, Ill take as much as I can get in the gun. If it were to be needed, Id prefer to have ammo left in the gun when its done, than to have it go dead in the middle of something.
I suppose its all who you have the most faith in, Murphy, or the "rule of 3's" My money is always on Murphy.