Well...That's not entirely accurate.
Momentum is a function of mass X velocity. The recoil impulse...what we feel...is acceleration.
Force forward equals force backward. As force goes up, so does the rate of acceleration of both bullet and gun. The recoil impulse is what we feel. In a pistol cartridge, about 90% of the bullet's acceleration occurs within the first half-inch of bullet movement. With some cartridges using a quick powder like Bullseye and a heavy bullet...the bulk of acceleration can occur before the bullet ever clears the case. Whatever added acceleration that occurs after the initial impulse is scarcely detectable.
Once the bullet is gone, there is no more acceleration of bullet OR gun. Any additional movement of the gun after bullet exit is due to momentum, or the conservation thereof. There is some additional "push" after bullet exit due to the exiting powder gasses and particulate...but that is miniscule in a pistol caliber compared to what comes from the main event.
Of course, this applies only to fixed breech arms...such as a revolver...because the impuls is transferred directly and immediately to the gun. Not so in an auto. What you feel as recoil in an autopistol is a function of the slide's compression of the spring, and the slide striking the impact abutment in the frame...which causes the greatest majority of muzzle flip.
The recoil system is a closed system, and once set into motion...creates a separate action/reaction event apart from the one that comes from the firing of the cartridge...or the main event...which is between bullet and breechblock.
The faster the slide accelerates rearward, the faster it compresses the spring...and the sharper the felt recoil. The harder it strikes the impact abutment...momentum plays a role here...the more the muzzle will flip.
Force forward equals force backward. As the spring compresses, it exerts more force in both directions. The stronger the spring...the more force it exerts...and the more push you feel on the frame from the spring.
Because the slide has moved a very short distance at bullet exit...about a tenth inch in short recoil systems...the spring adds little to the force forward/backward equation...and by the time it compresses enough for the shooter to feel much of its influence...the bullet is long gone, and the recoil generated by the main event is over.
So, we feel very little "kick' from firing the round in an autoloader. We can detect virtually none. There simply isn't time. What we feel is mainly slide to frame impact.
We can up the spring's tension to reduce the impact momentum...but we pay the price in sharper recoil before impact. This is the reason that small caliber blowback pistols have such sharp recoil for the power of the round. They use spring tension and/or slide mass to delay the breech opening...so the springs are necessarily stout for the size of the gun and the cartridge.
Incidentally...straight blowback pistols are also recoil operated. Both types function as a result of...force forward and force backward.
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