From the OP:
"I'm not trying to insult the homeowner--I just wish things had worked out differently."
From another post I made on this thread:
"When good people pay in blood and lives to provide useful information, we do them and ourselves a huge disservice if we ignore the lessons learned and simply feel badly about the outcome."I'm well aware of that as is everyone who has read and/or posted on this thread--that's what makes the incident a tragedy and that's why hopefully it resonates enough that others may stop, read and pay attention perhaps actually learn from what went wrong.
I've tried to make it clear that the point isn't to posthumously berate him for his poor decisions--he was, as I said, apparently a good person. The point is to learn from them so that what happened to him is less likely to happen to anyone else.
It's one thing when this happens to someone who hasn't really had the opportunity to think about tactics and see what works and what doesn't based on the actions of others. It's another thing when it happens to someone who has had every opportunity to make good decisions but has decided to ignore good advice. The OP isn't berating the man who died, it is berating the people who will read the story of how a man's life ended and ignore the lessons. Those who will, in effect, follow the instructions provided on how to get killed.
The story is really incidental, it's just the mechanism, an anecdote that draws and holds attention and helps us realize that the lessons are more than just theoretical--they can have real-world consequences.