Daniel T
A little thin-skinned are we?
I'm gonna suggest you don't try to tell another person how they should feel.
You tell someone his feelings -- whatever they are -- are inappropriate and that he should feel something different, you're going to get a backlash.
"Grow up?" As in, "you rejected my criticism and therefore I'm going to attack your maturity?"
Hello?
You've both been on THR for more than three years. I'd say playing the maturity card is probably as unproductive as it gets.
When my grandfather killed himself, I took it very personally.
When, some two years later, my grandmother gave me a pocket knife they'd saved for me for years (a Holley knife, if it matters), I felt some closure and was very pleased that grandpa thought enough of me to set aside one of those knives.
Allow the man to work through his own thoughts and feelings and have his own relationship with his grandfather.
I would do the same for you.