anti girlfriend

[Waitone]

A characteristic of the female of the species it an assumption on their part that they can fix the male of the species. Men go into a relationship not wanting the female to change. Women go into a relationship assuming she can change the male. In view of her past experiences with guns and boyfriends, I'd be on the lookout for repair work on you once the relationship is fixed (however she defines the term is what is important). She may be simply waiting before she begins repairs on you.

 

[Pilgrim]

Life is too short to be wasted trying to 'fix' someone in your own image.

Pilgrim

 

[bruss01]

Dump her and run.

That girl attracts WAY too much drama in her life. Pretty or not, you don't need that kind of excitement. I guarantee you it gets old fast.

The fact that she doesn't like guns is just a secondary reason. Take my advice, get out before you end up getting sucked into her drama.

 

[bigjim]

PS. I am trying to get my girlfriend to taste venison too!

I don't care who you are thats funny right thar!

 

[torpid]

aparently, a past boyfriend of hers robbed a bank and did a suicide by cop, now I don't know how it all went down, but according to her this guy shot towards the cop and the cop shot back, he falls to the ground and the cop shoots him again as he's lying on the ground, killing him...
...she seems to be pretty much over the fact that he's dead, just pissed that he was murdered (in her eyes)

I find her choice of empathies odd, and her judgment suspect.

That would spook me.

.

 

[BigRobT]

If you have to change to make a relationship, it AIN'T gonna work.

IF YOU expect someone to change to make a relationship, it AIN'T gonna work!!

FWIW, people will ALWAYS go back to becoming who they really are. From what I can see, this woman has some serious issues, maybe they will get fixed over time, maybe not. Like others have said, RUN. ALWAYS trust that feeling in your gut!!! It's rarely ever wrong. I can say this through hindsight, age, & experience.

 

[Travis Lee]

She's hung up on a dead criminal, hates guns, and cops,
(and you might just become one).........

and you think it's gonna get better?!

--Travis--

 

[Geno]

Pigweed & Thistles or a Bed of Roses

I had to lie down in a lot of pigweed and thistle patch before I learned to seek out a bed of roses. Make sure she's a rose, or move on. Problem is that both have the tendency to prick you from time-to-time, but the roses are softer and smell nicer.

Doc2005

 

[KrankyKraut]

Several people already said it, but it bears repetition: If she was attracted to a messed up criminal bank robber type, she's not the long-term relationship kind of a gal. This one has "issues". Pick a sane girlfriend.

 

[White Horseradish]

Puch: ???

See, anyone can make mistakes.

Puch is an Austrian moped.

 

[rero360]

thanks for all the input everyone, I've decided to see where it leads me, the semester is still young, so who know what'll happen in time and more than likely I'll be overseas by this time next year, so thats always a way out if I get to drawn in. what ever happens one way or the other, it really doesn't bother me, I'm young, I've got tons of oppertunities ahead of me so I don't feel like I'd be wasting my time if it doesn't work out.

as a side note, I guess her parents allready love me, and they haven't met me yet, guess I'm a welcome change to past BFs. of course all parents love me. something about being respectful and having a bright future seems to make them happy

 

[rero360]

Several people already said it, but it bears repetition: If she was attracted to a messed up criminal bank robber type, she's not the long-term relationship kind of a gal. This one has "issues". Pick a sane girlfriend.

I guess the guy held up the bank for the sole purpose of getting the cop to kill him, in my book, regardless of if it was a good shoot or not, he got what he wanted and the world is less one unstable person, gun used was fathers shotgun. like I said before I don't care one bit about it, I never knew the guy, I have no opinion on the matter other than its old news

 

[Standing Wolf]

...I'm young, I've got tons of oppertunities ahead of me so I don't feel like I'd be wasting my time if it doesn't work out.

A positive attitude overcomes 90% of the difficulties life presents us.

 

[ArmedBear]

as a side note, I guess her parents allready love me, and they haven't met me yet, guess I'm a welcome change to past BFs.

 

[Taurus 66]

Now being a college student at a college where women outnumber men vastly I have the ability to pick and choose my women. however I do want to see where this relationship leads to, after this long tirade, what can I do to try to make her see that guns in themselves aren't bad and can be fun?

Ask yourself if the time and energy getting her to see things from your perspective (and the perspective of every responsible gun owner) is worth it. If there is indeed 'plenty of fish in the lake', heck, toss that carp back and cast your line again. But if all the fish you catch are carp, well, it's a school of carp.

 

[shooting time]

Dump her now before it gets worse

 

[Hemicuda]

My GF (known her for forever) was not an anti, byt was quite ambivalent (sp) about them, and was decidedly not happy that i CARRIED one all the time...

i gave her space, i was gentle about it, and slowly but surely she has become a bit more interested in them, and has become quite fond of the idea that i take my own ab=nd her safety seriously enough to carry a gun to protect us from evil..

time, a getle demeanor, and a caring attitude go a long way here...

 

[one45auto]

.... (b) if you have something you need to "work through" up front, it only gets worse (typically WAY worse) with time. Both times before, I was going to be the "good guy". The "good guy" ends up with a lot more pain and a lot less money

Listen to this man, he knows what he's talking about.

Regrettably I've been there and done that. I once befriended (and subsequently fell in love with) a troubled woman with self-esteem issues and an ex-boyfriend who'd had several run-ins with the law and done hard time. It cost me hundreds of dollars, over a year of wasted time and effort, and the worst heartbreak of my life, bar none. Redneck2 is right - I should have slammed my hand in the car door instead. :banghead:

If any good came of it, it was that the experience permanently cured me of my "white knight" syndrome. No more being the good guy and attempting to rescue damsels in distress - to blazes with that. Nowadays if a woman I meet has issues or low self-esteem I avoid her like the plague, no matter how pretty she may be.

Don't learn the hard way like I did.

 

[redneck2]

I'm young, I've got tons of oppertunities ahead of me so I don't feel like I'd be wasting my time if it doesn't work out.

Yeah, right...at 21 I was ten feet tall and bulletproof. Gonna live forever. Plenty of time for setting things straight.

The reason I'm so adamant about this is that it's almost exactly the situation I had with ex #1. Poor little girl, no family to love her....

total nut bag...

A characteristic of the female of the species it an assumption on their part that they can fix the male of the species. Men go into a relationship not wanting the female to change. Women go into a relationship assuming she can change the male. In view of her past experiences with guns and boyfriends, I'd be on the lookout for repair work on you once the relationship is fixed (however she defines the term is what is important). She may be simply waiting before she begins repairs on you

few things have been typed here that are truer. A woman hooks up with a guy then gets pissed because he acts exactly the same way he did when they were going together

Now what seems like two days later I'm 55. You never know if this morning is your last sunrise. Life's too short to waste your emotions on a lost cause

 

[Rem700SD]

Being anti-gun is but a symptom of her bigger problems. The fact that her previous was a loser in every definable way should give you some very serious pause.
I'd be very careful and guarded emotionally with this one. I'm getting a mental image of an iceburg just looking for a ship.


Be a friend and try to shore up some of those self esteem issues she's having, while perhaps mixing in some range time with her. Be very patient, and attentive, and careful with your tone, especially at the range. You don't want her to shut down when she needs to listen. I don't forsee this going well, having been there before, but best of luck!

 

[Aguila Blanca]

as a side note, I guess her parents allready love me, and they haven't met me yet, guess I'm a welcome change to past BFs. of course all parents love me. something about being respectful and having a bright future seems to make them happy

Translation: Her parents know she has issues, too. They haven't been able to straighten her out, so they hope you will.

Get out now. Pay attention to what people here are telling you.

 

[dpesec]

I understand completely.
My GF doesn't like firearms. He brother killed himself many years ago. I don't think I'll ever be able to get her over it. That said, she understands and accepts me being armed.
Her only complaint is when my holster sticks her in the ribs. So I normally move it to SOB, appendix, or take it off and palce it in my coat.

 

[redneck2]

as a side note, I guess her parents allready love me, and they haven't met me yet, guess I'm a welcome change to past BFs. of course all parents love me. something about being respectful and having a bright future seems to make them happy

Oooooookay....now the red flags just have gone from half-mast to wildly waving in the breeze, and that loud screaming in your ears is the air raid siren

The parents must be as much of a wack-job as she is. There's enough nuts in this family to feed the squirrels in America for the winter. If you "love" anyone you've never met (other than Jesus), you're in line to get your ticket punched for the looney bin

go put your head in the oven and turn on the gas now. It'll save you the pain between now and the time you finally realize it's the best way out

 

[V4Vendetta]

I have never had a girlfriend or wife. I don't want one. I have a cousin who "chose poorly". His ex-wife was a witch. I mean a real witch with the Satan worship & voodoo stuff. She murdered their infant son by beating him & at the trial the coroner's report mentioned "bite marks" on the body. The police however thought that it would be more difficult to convict the mother* so they charged my cousin. They then made all sorts of lies such as the bite marks matched my cousins teeth pattern when we found out later that they didn't. He was then bullied into taking a plea bargain. He's spending 20 years in prison because he chose the wrong wife. On the plus side, he's gotten on a prison education program so he's gotten his college degree.


My only advice to you is to dump her & get a dog. If you want a wife, look elsewhere. That's just my sentiments.


*If you can call her that.

 

[NineseveN]

as a side note, I guess her parents allready love me, and they haven't met me yet, guess I'm a welcome change to past BFs. of course all parents love me. something about being respectful and having a bright future seems to make them happy

Oh my god man, run like the wind. I'm sure she's freakishly hot by your standards, I'm sure she can do all kinds of mind-boggling things when the lights go out, but it just ain't worth it. You don't have to find a girl that's carries a Kimber 24/7 and has an AK-47 instead of a Teddy Bear, but one that has obvious emotional issues, hates guns and cops and is not over the death of her ex is just a powder keg waiting for your face to get close enough.

If she wigs out, all she has to do is accuse you of something physical, unwanted sexually or violent and there goes a good chance you'll never be able to own a gun again, never be a police officer and be FFL... F$%^ed For Life.

While there is a chance that she may turn out okay, you've got too much to lose to allow yourself to be the litmus test on her sanity. Run fast, be friends if you can and see if she changes before you get too involved, and never touch her again or allow yourself to be intimate or alone with her until she's got a clean bill of mental health.

Conversely, you could balance a test tube of Nitro-Glycerin on your nethers, that's pretty much what you're doing now anyway.