anti girlfriend

[stevelyn]

Having been tangled up with more than my fair share of nut-cases, I can only tell you that everyone has given you the best advice you can get for free given the information you've provided.
I can only say that if you stick around her much longer it's going to cost you lots of money, your reputation, your sanity, or all three.

 

[Greg L]

Late to the party as usual...

My advice follows most everyone else's - dump her.

However after reading your responses that you want to try & make things work, then it is time for drastic measures. In your first post you mentioned that you had just met her but had spent 9 of the past 10 nights together. She's got problems that you recognize but are willing to work with. My thoughts are that you are willing to work with them because of the sex. Tell her that you want to see her most every day for a month but there is to be no sex of any kind. After a month of hanging out & getting to know each other you will know if you really want to be with her.

At the moment though your little head is in charge (fun as it may be).

 

[HerrWolfe]

Have her read these posts..... other than that, I'm staying out of it other than to agree with the folks above

 

[JesseJames]

I have seen it again and again. A sensible young man whose brains have been fried by the poon.
I'm sure the poon is good but don't let the poon make you think with the head between your legs rather than the head on your shoulders.
Young men need to learn to distinguish between the sensible women who just want a little respect and the "crazies" who will take a mile and then some if you give an inch.

 

[JesseJames]

Follow the advice given thus far and....

LOL!

 

[Aguila Blanca]

... however I asked her today if she would be willing to try venison, something she said she hated, she said she would be willing to give it a try, so through that there may be a chance for her to realize that guns are just tools.

when I told her that I planned on become a cop, when she told me of her opinion of cops, at least in that paticular jurisdiction, she said "just so long as you be a good and fair cop, then its ok" so it could just be she has hard feelings for that paticular police force.

Let me see if I understand this: You have it in your head that her willingness to try eating Bambi meat is going to magically extrapolate into her reversing her intense hatred of firearms? If you believe that, you are as much in need of professional counseling as she is.

As for the bit about "so long as you be a good cop ..." -- what the heck does that mean? As you related it, her previous significant other held up a bank with a gun, and used said gun to open fire on a police officer. The officer shot the dude both in self-defense and to prevent the dude from shooting other people. This makes him, in her eyes, a "bad" cop? What should a "good and fair" cop have done in that situation, offer to talk soothingly if the guy would please, pretty please put down the gun?

Where are those black and yellow handles again?

 

[johnnymenudo]

You wrote...



The best reply so far is



The truth is



pal, I don't know you and probably never will. I'm telling you right now...go slam your hand in a car door instead of mixing it up with this chick. It will be a LOT less painful.

Being 55 years old with multiple ex's, I can tell you with all assurance..

(a) there are plenty of fish in the sea

(b) if you have something you need to "work through" up front, it only gets worse (typically WAY worse) with time. Both times before, I was going to be the "good guy". The "good guy" ends up with a lot more pain and a lot less money

You wouldn't have posted if you didn't have a gut feeling there was something wrong. Run, don't walk, away from this one. The real one is probably right around the corner

I am with redneck on this one. I am 41 years old - been around the block a few times myself. Unless you are a masochist - run!

JM

 

[danurve]

WoW rero360 hit a few nerves I see!

Something tells me rero360 is not a run for the hills kinda guy. So if you do try to introduce her to guns in a positive way, I agree with a rimfire.

 

[Zach S]

If I were in your shoes, I'd walk away. I'd run if need be.

 

[scout26]

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=155196&page=8&highlight=Anti+Girlfriend

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=84989&highlight=Anti+Girlfriend

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=63431&highlight=Anti+Girlfriend

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=28200&highlight=Anti+Girlfriend

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=15723&highlight=Anti+Girlfriend

*Sigh*

Why don't you e-mail/PM these people and see how those relationships turned out.

 

[Kobun]

The "dump her" crowd is right, but my suggestion is that you DON'T dump her!
Not unless you have other females lined up.

Have fun with her. Meet her once a week, two times maximum!
That way you get the female companionshipneeds covered while not putting her in "relationship" mode.
Don't call her every day! And don't return her calls every time! And don't take her out on "dates" where you pay. Bring her when you go grocery shopping or something, but keep away from relationship things.

And most importantly, KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN! There are other women out there.

 

[v35]

OMG there's a lot of misery out there! Yikes!

I'm going to buy my wife a dozen roses right now!

 

[rero360]

not putting her in "relationship" mode.
Don't call her every day! And don't return her calls every time! And don't take her out on "dates" where you pay. Bring her when you go grocery shopping or something, but keep away from relationship things.

And most importantly, KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN! There are other women out there.

Hey man, thats the story of my life, I'll stop looking when I say "I do", and I don't see that happening anytime soon. I had a girl last semester that was a bit less mental, but not nearly as good looking, but I decided to go with the new girl ( ladies here on the forun don't hate me, I'm a nice guy, its college and I consider this a way point in my life, I don't think anything of true importance will happen while I'm here, just a fun time) this thing wasn't meant to be long lived from the begining,

I just wanted to know the best way to help her understand that the guns thelmselves are not to blame, its the people's actions, including the sicko that got himself killed, I personally have no respect for the guy, I figure if your going to kill yourself do so without bringing others into it. there were a few that did answer my question on how to approach the subject and I thank you,

everyone else that suggest that I eject, run for the hills and the like, thank you to for your opinion, its the same advise I would give someone else in a simular situation, perhaps I am a bit of a masochist(sp?) I guess thats why I'm in the Infantry

Its college, I'll probably be in theater in less than 8 months, I'm not looking for anything long term at this point in my life, nothung going on right now really counts right now, its all for fun. once I get out of college and back from the sandbox is when I'll look at life seriously,

Anyways, thanks everyone for your advice and opinions on the matter, I hope that while I with this girl I am able to impart a positive view on firearms and venison and if not, oh well, lost cause I guess, only time will tell, I'm not stressing about any of it.

 

[redneck2]

I had a girl last semester that was a bit less mental, but not nearly as good looking, but I decided to go with the new girl

I have seen it again and again. A sensible young man whose brains have been fried by the poon.
I'm sure the poon is good but don't let the poon make you think with the head between your legs rather than the head on your shoulders.
Young men need to learn to distinguish between the sensible women who just want a little respect and the "crazies" who will take a mile and then some if you give an inch.

there's one steadfast rule with women...the nuttier they act, the nuttier they are. I've seen enough psycho women in my life to fill a whole ward. Trouble with psycho women is they're nuts.

About next week she'll either

(a) come up pregnant and you get to pay for a kid for the next 21 years
(b) show up with the newest (in a series) boyfriend that beats the crap out of you
(c) files charges for stalking or abuse

dude, you're a lost cause. About the time you're ready to jump off the bridge, look back and appreciate what we tried to tell you

 

[Missashot]

Originally posted by rero 360

Hey man, thats the story of my life, I'll stop looking when I say "I do", and I don't see that happening anytime soon. I had a girl last semester that was a bit less mental, but not nearly as good looking, but I decided to go with the new girl ( ladies here on the forun don't hate me, I'm a nice guy, its college and I consider this a way point in my life, I don't think anything of true importance will happen while I'm here, just a fun time) this thing wasn't meant to be long lived from the begining,

I just wanted to know the best way to help her understand that the guns thelmselves are not to blame, its the people's actions, including the sicko that got himself killed, I personally have no respect for the guy, I figure if your going to kill yourself do so without bringing others into it. there were a few that did answer my question on how to approach the subject and I thank you,

everyone else that suggest that I eject, run for the hills and the like, thank you to for your opinion, its the same advise I would give someone else in a simular situation, perhaps I am a bit of a masochist(sp?) I guess thats why I'm in the Infantry

Its college, I'll probably be in theater in less than 8 months, I'm not looking for anything long term at this point in my life, nothung going on right now really counts right now, its all for fun. once I get out of college and back from the sandbox is when I'll look at life seriously,

If you do not and never did plan on being serious with this young lady, then why, oh pray tell why, did you fire up the "Dump her, oh what the heck, shoot her" squad here on THR? Don't you know not to rile the natives?

 

[High Planes Drifter]

So there's no chance of slowly breaking her into guns then?
I really wouldnt have a huge rpoblem with that as long as she didnt nag me about owning guns and going to the range. I guess what Im saying is that as long as she respected your opinion...cool. This probably wont happen from what I've read.

If she constantly brought up the subject, dump her. Shes not respecting you and your lifestyle. But before you dump her, give her a Dirty Santchez for all of us.

 

[Skipper]

DON'T EVEN BOTHER. LIFE IS WAY TOO SHORT. RUN...NOW !

 

[rero360]

well guys, its over, didn't last quite as long as I expected it to, but hey, I had fun and we're still on good terms so, no harm no foul as the saying goes. oh well, looks like I'm back to hunting something fresh up. the thead was fun while it lasted, I really injoyed the ejction pics. got a good laugh from them.

 

[colt.45]

You've been together for a week and shes already in control of your clothes now that thats over with. in the nicest way possible, try to get her to go shoot your pistols (women like pistols), it worked on my brothers liberal ass girlfriend

 

[rangerruck]

I recently met this girl and the way things are going we'll be a couple within a week or so, we've spent 9 out of the past 10 nights together, she's a beautiful girl and all but she hates guns.

aparently, a past boyfriend of hers robbed a bank and did a suicide by cop, now I don't know how it all went down, but according to her this guy shot towards the cop and the cop shot back, he falls to the ground and the cop shoots him again as he's lying on the ground, killing him. Now I really don't care one bit about it, guy wanted to die, got his wish, but now she hates guns and cops, I own a bunch of guns and will probably become a cop in the future.

I've made it known to her that I own guns and carry on a regular basis when I'm not at school, and while she's not pleased about it she accepts the fact. I've tried to explain to her that they are just tools and that its the intent of the user that matters. it actually came up last night, we were clothes shopping and I made the comment on how I need a couple of extra inches in the waist of my pants, and she asks why, she didn't seemed bothered then though, just said to wear the one pair when I'm not carrying.

Now being a college student at a college where women outnumber men vastly I have the ability to pick and choose my women. however I do want to see where this relationship leads to, after this long tirade, what can I do to try to make her see that guns in themselves aren't bad and can be fun? I'd like to take her to the range at sometime, my Cx4 storm would be a good starter gun, low recoil and all that, I do feel that she is intelegent enough to realize the truth.

any advise would be great everyone. also i want to get her to try venison.

if she is smart and respects intelligence, put together as many quotes by the founding fathers as possible. if she is all about feelings, victimizations, etc., there is another string either on here or on firearms forum about the inherrent racism that began in the earliest days of gun control, all the way back to the 1500's.

 

[k_dawg]

I say:

Enjoy the ride. Don't make excuses or betray your love of firearms. If she's cool with it, be cool. If she starts trying to seperate you from your firearms, well then.. it was fun while it lasted.

 

[Missouri Mule]

Dude..use your head.....the one sitting on your shoulders ......
and think this through. Is a little penocha really worth the risks.....