I was searching for something light and thin enough that my wife would actually carry it when she was out. She has a S&W 357 L frame Mag for her night stand and a Glock 19 for her "around the house" weapon, but she was not anxious to carry either around in her purse while shopping.
I had been similarly perplexed with finding a gun I could actually hide while in CCW mode. I had dropped a few bucks on OWB, IWB and elastic band carry methods and I never could find a way to carry any of my Ruger Autos or my Glock 19 so that I felt like it was really "hidden". I'm not a 'beefy' fellow and anything hanging on my frame just seemed to stand out and advertise I was carrying. So I found I didn't carry.
My wife and I were at a gun shop and I spotted a S&W Airweight Snubbie in 38 spl ... and it had already been factory fitted with CT laser sight grips. Knowing it had to be light weight, I had her drop it into her purse. Just like that, the search was over. Her eyes lit up and I knew she would be OK. It took up surprisingly little room, much less than one would guess by looking at it. It was so light she could hardly feel the weight. Her smile said it all. That revolver was going home with us.
I had not thought much about getting a 'revolver' for my own CCW. I guess I figured with the cylinder, it would simply be to thick to conceal well. Still, since the gun was out of the case and we were looking at it, I dropped it in my front jeans pocket. IT SIMPLY DISAPPEARED. I was amazed. My wife was amazed. I mean I found you just could not tell I had a firearm in that pocket.
We now have a matched pair of SW 38 spl Airweight snub nosed revolvers with factory fitted Crimson Trace Laser Grips. And a pair of pocket holsters that work well in my pocket and her purse. I find I can sit, drive, squat, bend over ... and not even know it is in my pocket. But I do tend to wear loose clothes anyway ... not baggy but far from skin tight.
My point is that you may not want to rule out the smaller revolvers like I had mistakenly done for too long. Load them with Hornady Critical Defense +P ammo and you are good to go. Five shots is plenty for the places I plan to go, but Bianchi speed loader stips are cheap and with practice, fast and easy to use. Speed strips are easy to conceal also.
I found that one cannot evaluate these small light S&W revolvers by just looking at them. But hold one and actually try to conceal it ... and the miracle unfolds.
Most importantly, since they are so concealable, dependable, light and versatile (with the CT sights for inside a building or night), they actually go with us just about everywhere. You can get this weapon with concealed or exposed hammer (S&W 637) and, of course, with or without the laser grips. Certainly worth a look as you search for something that will work for you.
Good luck in your search. Keep an open mind. Try lots of things.