I explained to her that, had we taught him to treat that airsoft gun with the same respect as a real gun, it would be very telling of whether he was mature enough to handle a real gun... but because we didn't use that same rule structure, or strict rule structure, it really wasn't the same... what he did was act stupid with a toy.... I even told her that we could implement a "same as a gun" rule with his airsoft, if she thought that was best.... but that punishing him as though it were a gun violation, when it was really a toy, doesn't seem right to me....