Dodged a Close One With the Wife

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Let me start by saying that my wife has no issue with my firearms, occasionally she goes shooting with me. However she thinks that a few guns is enough guns and she has no idea how many I actually have.

Today I was laughing at a sig line that I saw on here that said "If you know how many guns you have then you don't have enough". She asked me what I was laughing at and I read her the sig line. She then asked me how many guns I have......:what:

Me: Pretending to think.... Uhmmmm, I'm not sure (I wasn't about to tell her unless she really pushed).

Her: Well then, I guess you have enough then don't you.

Damn! I hope she never asks to look in the safe!:eek:
 
Now that's family unity lol. Maybe you could over time give the unknown ones to her as presents, unless you think she would sell them behind your back...which would really be rather apropos actually. :D
 
hmm, I have...aww my back, my back, I just pulled a muscle, honey can you get me some advil.
 
It seems to me that this can only be one of two things:

1) It's her business and you're aware that you spend to much money on guns and are afraid she'll agree with your self-assesment...

or

2) It's none of her business, in which case it shouldn't matter how many you have.

I'm sure there are a million different scenarios that I haven't thought of but those are the only two that spring to mind. So, if it isn't 1) or 2) what's the real reason you feel the need to hide your purchases from your wife?
 
I have a friend back in WV that used to buy guns several times a month. His wife would count them and every time he added a gun to the cabinet she would b***h like crazy. One day he bought this huuuuge antique safe from a banker and put it in the barn. He told his wife one of these days when we need this thing I am gonna have to get a locksmith to open it and give me a new combination. Of course he had the combination and he put all of his new purchases in that safe and as far as I know she never caught on because about every four months or so he would add a clunker to his original gun cabinet.

And for the record, my wife doesn't really care because I only buy guns with my poker winnings but she would rather I pay bills with it. Not that I feel a need to explain myself to HKUSP45C or DR Phil.
 
TimM said:
And for the record, my wife doesn't really care because I only buy guns with my poker winnings but she would rather I pay bills with it. Not that I feel a need to explain myself to HKUSP45C or DR Phil.
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Sorry if I offended you, I just find it curious that people feel the need to keep things from their spouses and was wondering what your motivation was.

Reading back, it did come off a little self-righteous and for that I appologize. It's none of my business what you do and don't share with your spouse.
 
I have taken my bride to the LGS and suggested that she not be surprised at anything I might do in the next 30 minutes,...she never is,..and actually,..the last two I brought home,....she bought. Love this woman!!
 
Sounds like a pretty normal exchange between and enthusiast and someone that doesn't share their level of interest.

Substitute knives or watches or tea pots or pens or rings for guns and you get the same exchange between the enthusiast and the non-enthusiast.

As long as all the budgeting to support the household is taken care of and met it doesn't really matter what you each do with your personal money.
 
TimM,

I've got plenty of room in my safe (too much?). You can stash some here if you need to. :rolleyes:
 
I was just wondering if you have more than 1 barrel for a gun does that count as one or two or even three. I always told the EX they didn't count. Could be that's why she's the EX.
 
hso said:
As long as all the budgeting to support the household is taken care of and met it doesn't really matter what you each do with your personal money.
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No, I get that. I was curious why it was a "dodge" and why he was afraid she would look in the safe and see how many he had.

Maybe I'm taking it (and myself) a bit too seriously.

I spend a GREAT deal of money on a hobby (besides guns) my spouse thinks is the silliest thing since Carrot Top, but I'm transparent about my purchases, collection size and total monies spent.

One difference may be that we share our money, same account for deposits and withdrawals for bills and lifestyle. We also make the same amount of money (most of the time, she's unemployed currently).

If she's going to make a purchase (a substantial purchase, over a few hundred) she tells me she's going to so we can discuss it, not to ask permission but to let me know she has a need (or want) that is going to subtract from "our" stockpile. I return the favor when I'm spending cash like that. Sometimes we put the brakes on the other one with a rational argument about something more important to the househould than a new toy, this works both ways.

So, it's a bit strange to me when people (and I see this frequently on gun boards, much less so on other enthusiast boards) brag about how they have hidden their purchases from their spouse.

Again, I'm not trying to sound to self righteous, I'm just wondering what dynamic leads to such a relationship.
 
HK, I am in the same boat as you... sort of. I make 99% of the household income, but I still discuss anything over 75 dollars with my wife. I have spent 800 ish this year on guns and accessories, and most of the time she is encouraging. She tells me when there are ammo sales, or if there is a sale on hunting gear, or sales on a type of gun I am looking for and is supportive of my purchases. She agrees to know how to operate all of my firearms... even if she doesn't ever go to the range with them. She does like that .32 Mag though. She has no idea how many guns I have.. even when I have pulled them all out the day before for cleaning / wipedowns.

The reason I discuss how much, instead of what I am purchasing.... I live in a fixer up and have spent close to 30k in the last 5 years making it livable. She does the bills, etc. so she already knows how much I have spent. She still doesn't complain... so I guess I'll call her a keeper.
 
Once again... she really doesn't care. If she did, believe me, she would know how many I have... but she really doesn't care. It was kind of a tongue-in-cheek humorous moment between us and I thought you guys would get a kick out of it. Apparently some people misunderstood the intention of my post.

We have plenty in savings... we both make decent money and my bills are always paid a month in advance (seriously). My gun purchases come from my poker winnings, all is cool. I am not afraid to tell her anything, never have been. It was a humorous moment where she ribbed me a bit.
 
I don't know TimM's situation, so I won't comment. I do, however, think it's sad when people have to hide that sort of thing from their spouse.

Sorry if I offended you, I just find it curious that people feel the need to keep things from their spouses and was wondering what your motivation was.

Reading back, it did come off a little self-righteous and for that I appologize. It's none of my business what you do and don't share with your spouse.
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No offense, but stick to your guns, man. You post something, you make it everyone else's business. If it's no one's business, you don't post it.
 
you said "safe" not safes so you are behind

get on the ball bud go to the shop in the morning and buy 5-10 more and a new safe
 
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