Dodged a Close One With the Wife

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Be honest and upfront. Keep the matter forward as we shall say. Bring it up before the wedding day. This is who I am and be sensible when purchasing. If the spouse becomes controlling to the point where it crosses from the "mans hobby" into everything else. Watch for the handwriting on the wall. If the tempo increases in the pitching a fit then plan ahead to move those guns out. When I separated from my spuse the first thing to leave was the firearms. Some have been in my family for generations.
 
I have two guns and that's all I need.
My wife knows about both of them.
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That's just sad....on both accounts.

I mean, to only need two guns? I can see only needing 200 guns, but two guns? And to not keep knowledge of at least one of the two from the wife? White lies and alibis, man.
 
I won.t comment right now, my wife was just asking what I thought was so funny and I told her about this thread. I think it would be better to make my comments later.
 
That's different. To me, that sounds like you have your money that she doesn't care what you do with it, so long as you aren't buying hookers.
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Once again here is somebody making assumptions.

Also, Some of you guys just have no sense of humor....
 
That's just sad....on both accounts.

I mean, to only need two guns? I can see only needing 200 guns, but two guns? And to not keep knowledge of at least one of the two from the wife? White lies and alibis, man.
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I hope that's a joke. How many guns someone needs depends on a lot of things, but if anyone here is hiding the best means the wife has of defending herself if something goes bad from her, then he has some serious problems.

Once again here is somebody making assumptions.

Also, Some of you guys just have no sense of humor.
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I'm sorry, is it a bad assumption that you aren't buying hookers?
 
i had a technique (with my last wife) that worked great:

i'd wait til i had 50% more than i needed for my new purchase, i'd spend the extra money on something for her (jewlery normally). i'd give her the gift, she'd get all warm and fuzzy. an hour or so later, i'd be field stripping a weapon she had never seen at the table and she couldn't really say much.

my current wife is an angel, she wants me to have the best of everything, i could go buy a Nighthawk Custom and she'd just feel happy i didn't have to whip out a budget pistol in front of my friends.
 
I did hide a couple of trades from my wife once but after 25 years of marriage she knows me pretty well. She said, "thats a pretty gun. I haven't seen that one before".....I had to tell her.....I can't do it again:uhoh:
 
My wife keeps track of how many firearms I have but yet lets me keep my over time so I won't get into the family budget.

I buy my bullets, powder and primers and pay for match fees out of this fund.....I'm building a lower for a upper that doesn't have one and when I'm finished she'll count it too.
 
im pretty lucky on the wife front - mine gave up on me awhile ago. She has decided that what i do with my guns is my business, as long as i dont dip into the budget and dont buy anything too expensive too often. She has pretty much said that "It's your stuff...You know what your doing" The only problem with this set-up is that on a public-servants income, i usually have to trade or sell something if i want something new. Now im not going to lie and say i have told her about every gun i have bought or sold. She knows about most of them becuase i discuss the purchases with her. If i ever use "our" money for a new gun(very very seldom) i prime the pump for a long time before jumping in. If its "my" money(ie. sold a gun) i pretty much just make the decision and go from there. I usually show her the gun, and let her decide what she thinks about it on her own, because she likes guns and enjoys shooting too. But i wont say she is into it as much as I am. She keeps her favorite Sig225 and a lil .380 and those are hers, along with a hunting rifle I bought her for x-mas one year. She has also adopted my short barrelled/pistol gripped 12-guage. I tried to explain to her that it is a man's gun but she likes to keep it by the bed when im on night shift. I'm not sure I'll get that one back.

As for the guns she doesn't know about...well - i dont really keep them from her -but i have picked up a few that i haven't discussed with her, but i dont hide them from her. I'm lucky because to her they all look alot alike. If it's a dark colored semi-auto im usually safe - she has never showed much of an interest in snooping through the safe and i guess thats good. I just try not to go overboard and its all good.

I will share this though before i close out...

A couple of years ago she went in for an ankle surgury. It was a short 4hr procedure and that I got to take her home. Due to the all the drugs they doped her up on, she was, well lets just say she was in a darn good mood. We had to have the surgury in another town with a much nicer selection of gun stores. I told her i wanted to check out a rifle, just to see prices. Its always good to price out EBR's. When I found the one i wanted I asked her if i could have it. Mrs. LaLa Land smiled and said "Sure honey...whatever you want...love you!" i asked her twice then three times. After the fourth "yes" i went and bought it. Its still one of my favorite guns. When she went in a few months ago to have her ankle tweeked she had someone else drive her home. hmmm...
 
Copper, that's how things should be. You aren't hiding it, and you don't have to report it, you just have to be responsible and not screw over your family.

I guess I just don't get it when guys are going on about how they are hiding their gun purchases from their wives as if it's something to be proud of.
 
a couple of years ago my wife asked me how many guns I had..
I responded with.. I dunno. she said ,, your silly.. ..and asked whats for dinner..
subject still unknown.
 
When I started getting interested in shooting sports I was working in IT and my girlfriend didn't see the "need" for someone like me to have a gun (not even for recreational shooting). I am now in a branch of law enforcement that deals with highly unsavory people. Got a nice collection already, and guess who wants to learn how to shoot now ? Marketing 101: create a need, and demand will follow ;).
 
Treading very softly here after another member had a hissy fit when I replied to his comment about his needing spousal approval to make a gun purchase resulting in my being placed on double secret probation until 11/29 (3:51pm) for insulting another forum member, let me just say that I don't keep secrets from my wife; she knows exactly how many guns I own and exactly what they are worth (she is already looking forward to selling them when I am dead); and I do not seek her permission to buy or sell anything.

Conversely, she does pretty much as she pleases, as well.
 
Last week I looked in the closet where my wife keeps her shoes and there were several pairs that were not there last time I looked...

She claims she's had them for years. I've also had all those rifles for years...
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Exactly!
 
Husband works -- pays his half of the bills and sets aside a percentage of monthly earnings in savings (retirement / vacation planning / emergency money / etc).

He then spends the remainder on whatever he wants.



Wife works -- pays her half of the bills and sets aside a percentage of monthly earnings in savings (retirement / vacation planning / emergency money / etc).

She then spends the remainder on whatever she wants.





Works well for me.

Never any fighting about purchases.
 
My wife keeps telling me to "KILL the GUN MONSTER"
She know's how many I have and just gives me "the look" whenever I bring a new addition home.

She often asks me "Are you going to tell me you are selling this one too?"
And then the look start again.

She did tell me that it's okay to let the "AMMO MONSTER" out for a while.

BTW, I do know how many firearms I have...................................... I think
 
Remember that in a "Community Property" marrage agreement you personally only own half of the guns you think you do! She DOES have every right to know; because, she owns the other half!!!
 
TimN,

The sweetest guns are bought with poker winnings...that is how most of my collection has been funded.

Shrevy
 
My wife has no clue the number of guns I own. Not that I'm hiding them from her she just hasn't taken the time to count them. If she wants to know she can figure it out. She doesn't have the combination to the safe but any time she wants in I let her in.

I don't always tell her how much a gun cost, if its a very ecpensive gun over $1000 I'll tell her about it. She doesn't tell me how much she spends on clothes for her and our daughter so I think that makes us even.

My wife and I have a joint checking account and all of our money is shared. My paycheck is direct deposit so we leave it in the bank for bills and keep her check as cash.
It works for us, we never fight about money or really anything else for that matter.

She did balk when I asked her about buying an M16 the other day.
 
Remember that in a "Community Property" marrage agreement you personally only own half of the guns you think you do! She DOES have every right to know; because, she owns the other half!!!
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Yes, and that would be in these states: Alaska, Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Puerto Rico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin.
 
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Remember that in a "Community Property" marrage agreement you personally only own half of the guns you think you do! She DOES have every right to know; because, she owns the other half!!!

Yes, and that would be in these states: Alaska, Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Puerto Rico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin.
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And let's not forget Florida...:mad:
 
Remember that in a "Community Property" marrage agreement you personally only own half of the guns you think you do!
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My wife's jewelry collection costs more than my gun collection, so I think we have some room to negotiate...

Besides, since I started collecting M1911s, she can't tell new from old! ;)
 
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