I've been married for almost 38 years.
Before marriage I observed that if you entered into matrimony thinking you are going to CHANGE the things that you didn't like about your wife to be you were just fooling yourself. No more than she could change the things she didn't like about you.
Some things are deal breakers. I have been brought up and had firearms since I was 12. I had them when I met my wife to be, and If she had said what she was or was NOT going to allow after our marriage, there wouldn't have been a marriage.
This is going to really get me some heat I think, but the absolute truth of a marriage is just this:
SOMEBODY IS GOING TO BE THE ALPHA MALE IN THE HOUSE..... If you choose to relinquish testicle control of that position, that's your problem.. And IT WILL be a problem. Most women do not want to be the "man" in the home. They want, expect, and need YOU to be that person. They will try you at different times, just as a 2nd male dog would try the Alpha. But, they don't want to win, they just need reassurance someone is in control.
I love my wife with all my heart. I try to keep a 50/50 relationship in all aspects of our marriage. BUT, when the chips are down, I make the hard decisions. I don't mean I'm better, smarter, whatever, than my wife, but I AM the dominant personality in our home.
You simply MUST make all of this clear before the "I do's", or you will forever regret it. You will be entering into a marriage that is generally either doomed to fail, or guaranteed to emasculate you.. Either option sucks.
I have no problem with a wife that might want the firearms kept in a "safe" fashion, because of small children, whatever. But in today's society you need to have the potential to protect yourself, and your loved ones, and you need to have access to a firearm for that to be a reality.
Get it worked out, or you will be facing a crappy, short duration marriage, or a crappy, long duration nightmare where you have to sit to pee......
Just my old fart opinion.. Dissenting opinions welcomed, and cheerfully ignored.
Best Wishes,
JP