Pistolera
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A woman's point of view for the 'GF' who's anti guns...
I'm new here and saw there wasn't a feminine perspective offered here and thought I'd chime in.
My dad was career law enforcement, though he kept us away from firearms and I grew up to be afraid of them as a result of no information and the influence of living in the liberal nest that is California. So, I unerstand your GF's LE relatives perfectly. I am certain that is is her FEAR that causes her sister/friends to tell her she should stay away from guns, or that only LEO should have them.
No longer afraid of guns, I'm fast becoming an advocate for them. I made the decision on my own to buy and learn to use a pistol, it wasn't a man's request. It was a home defense decision. But - lol - after my first class I was so hooked that I went through 20,000 rounds in my 1911 the first year and am on my second barrel, three different training facilities, became an NRA instructor, and compete in IDPA and IPSC.
Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is that I discovered how FUN it was. And, one of my favorite pastimes is talking guns to women who don't know about guns. I try to educate about the 2A freedom issues and the combat mindset - the REALITY of our world - at least getting them to think about putting locking doorknobs on their bedroom doors in case they need to retreat to safety from attackers, keeping a phone in that room, keeping pepperspray in their bedstand and in their purses, and having a plan for personal safety in the event of a home invasion - and in just walking down the street. Women who refuse to prepare for self-protection are low-hanging fruit, IMAO, and I point that out.
Most women are intimidated by competitive environments with men. This is a real stop for getting them out shooting. (I got over that on a skydiving 4-way team,playing with 'big boys') So, the advice given here to join a gun club and get her out meeting people, especially other gals, is a very good tip.
But, you have a bigger issue here: Her refusal to 'allow you' to possess and enjoy guns.
My take is there are two issues in play here. One is that she is afraid of guns. The other is she is attempting to set a precedent with you that she can control your behavior based on her choices. Am I warm?
I agree wholeheartedly with most of the opinions posted here.. and one in particular hits home for me...... ask yourself, man: "Do I want this woman raising my children?" Because, a GF is for fun (supposed to be) but there comes a point when a 'man' and 'woman' marry and make a home, becoming devoted to that and each other.
I venture to say that what would make you happy is to have a woman who at least recognizes that guns are something you love - and respects your choices.... maybe even being willing to give it a try for herself.
A woman who insists on controlling your interest in guns is really more interested in controlling all aspects of you. And, the funny thing is women like that never end up respecting the men they've so systematically emasculated! So, as was stated above, dude - think about tossing her back in the pond if she doesn't show a willingness to accept who you are.
Do not cheat yourself. Choose an appropriate companion.
I'm new here and saw there wasn't a feminine perspective offered here and thought I'd chime in.
My dad was career law enforcement, though he kept us away from firearms and I grew up to be afraid of them as a result of no information and the influence of living in the liberal nest that is California. So, I unerstand your GF's LE relatives perfectly. I am certain that is is her FEAR that causes her sister/friends to tell her she should stay away from guns, or that only LEO should have them.
No longer afraid of guns, I'm fast becoming an advocate for them. I made the decision on my own to buy and learn to use a pistol, it wasn't a man's request. It was a home defense decision. But - lol - after my first class I was so hooked that I went through 20,000 rounds in my 1911 the first year and am on my second barrel, three different training facilities, became an NRA instructor, and compete in IDPA and IPSC.
Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is that I discovered how FUN it was. And, one of my favorite pastimes is talking guns to women who don't know about guns. I try to educate about the 2A freedom issues and the combat mindset - the REALITY of our world - at least getting them to think about putting locking doorknobs on their bedroom doors in case they need to retreat to safety from attackers, keeping a phone in that room, keeping pepperspray in their bedstand and in their purses, and having a plan for personal safety in the event of a home invasion - and in just walking down the street. Women who refuse to prepare for self-protection are low-hanging fruit, IMAO, and I point that out.
Most women are intimidated by competitive environments with men. This is a real stop for getting them out shooting. (I got over that on a skydiving 4-way team,playing with 'big boys') So, the advice given here to join a gun club and get her out meeting people, especially other gals, is a very good tip.
But, you have a bigger issue here: Her refusal to 'allow you' to possess and enjoy guns.
My take is there are two issues in play here. One is that she is afraid of guns. The other is she is attempting to set a precedent with you that she can control your behavior based on her choices. Am I warm?
I agree wholeheartedly with most of the opinions posted here.. and one in particular hits home for me...... ask yourself, man: "Do I want this woman raising my children?" Because, a GF is for fun (supposed to be) but there comes a point when a 'man' and 'woman' marry and make a home, becoming devoted to that and each other.
I venture to say that what would make you happy is to have a woman who at least recognizes that guns are something you love - and respects your choices.... maybe even being willing to give it a try for herself.
A woman who insists on controlling your interest in guns is really more interested in controlling all aspects of you. And, the funny thing is women like that never end up respecting the men they've so systematically emasculated! So, as was stated above, dude - think about tossing her back in the pond if she doesn't show a willingness to accept who you are.
Do not cheat yourself. Choose an appropriate companion.
