RoostRider
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Just thought I would toss you guys this one to chew on....
I carry constantly, and I live in a major city in a so-so neighborhood (not the best by a LONG shot, but not the worst either)... I work all over, including the worst neighborhoods...
Despite the logic of many around here I DO stop at gas stations in bad neighborhoods... I simply have to, or run out of gas, miss appointments, etc... (don't even start in with the "move away" stuff, although I respect that attitude, there are plenty of threads about that, this should not be another- thanks).
Well, every once in a while, in one of the 'lesser' neighborhoods, someone comes up and try's to shake your hand.... a total stranger mind you.... usually going to hit you up for some spare change.... ... it doesn't happen in the better neighborhoods, or rurally now that I think about it...
The problem is that I grew up in a very rural area, and it was simply inexplicable to NOT shake a mans hand when he offers it... a straight up insult, mind you.... the kind of thing you would do to the guy who just beat up a girl or something...
It is, after all, a gesture based on the premise of "I am unarmed"... offering an empty hand.... right?
It took me a little while to get over that after moving to the city....
So here I am to this day.... torn between shaking someones hand (a vulnerable move), but what a guy 'should' be able to do (in fact, if it were a lot more common, the world might be a better place)... and being 'rude', something that is contrary to my nature....
I KNOW it is a method people can use to 'size you up' as a mark for a number of bad things.... and I question everyone who tries this move...
I'm a little bemused at myself because today I broke tradition and shook a guys hand.... but my mind flashed 'bad idea, bad idea' despite the fact that the guy was nice as all get out and turned out to be harmless... but it brought up this complex to me....
Sure, safety is important, but to be 'totally safe' we would have to be anti-social at best as a people.... you gotta draw the line somewhere... where?
Personally, I have taken the 'so long as you don't touch me we're OK' approach for a long time.... but I sometimes question my logic... I'd like your input.... mostly because I am pretty sure you guys are gonna assure me that 'don't touch me' is pretty decent route and that being a 'little' rude is better then being a little vulnerable.... lol
I carry constantly, and I live in a major city in a so-so neighborhood (not the best by a LONG shot, but not the worst either)... I work all over, including the worst neighborhoods...
Despite the logic of many around here I DO stop at gas stations in bad neighborhoods... I simply have to, or run out of gas, miss appointments, etc... (don't even start in with the "move away" stuff, although I respect that attitude, there are plenty of threads about that, this should not be another- thanks).
Well, every once in a while, in one of the 'lesser' neighborhoods, someone comes up and try's to shake your hand.... a total stranger mind you.... usually going to hit you up for some spare change.... ... it doesn't happen in the better neighborhoods, or rurally now that I think about it...
The problem is that I grew up in a very rural area, and it was simply inexplicable to NOT shake a mans hand when he offers it... a straight up insult, mind you.... the kind of thing you would do to the guy who just beat up a girl or something...
It is, after all, a gesture based on the premise of "I am unarmed"... offering an empty hand.... right?
It took me a little while to get over that after moving to the city....
So here I am to this day.... torn between shaking someones hand (a vulnerable move), but what a guy 'should' be able to do (in fact, if it were a lot more common, the world might be a better place)... and being 'rude', something that is contrary to my nature....
I KNOW it is a method people can use to 'size you up' as a mark for a number of bad things.... and I question everyone who tries this move...
I'm a little bemused at myself because today I broke tradition and shook a guys hand.... but my mind flashed 'bad idea, bad idea' despite the fact that the guy was nice as all get out and turned out to be harmless... but it brought up this complex to me....
Sure, safety is important, but to be 'totally safe' we would have to be anti-social at best as a people.... you gotta draw the line somewhere... where?
Personally, I have taken the 'so long as you don't touch me we're OK' approach for a long time.... but I sometimes question my logic... I'd like your input.... mostly because I am pretty sure you guys are gonna assure me that 'don't touch me' is pretty decent route and that being a 'little' rude is better then being a little vulnerable.... lol