Think of it more as a camera and a TV than as a scope. On a FFP you are zooming in with the camera. Everything in front of you (including the crosshairs) gets magnified and it show's up on the TV. Now, with 2nd focal plane your zooming in with the TV. Sure your still zooming, and the point of aim should stay the same, but your only zooming what's on the TV. Those crosshairs between you and the TV aren't zooming in or out, so relative distance is changing.
So with the FFP scopes 1 dot or mark or whatever sighting system measurement you have stays correct because it zooms with everything else. With SFP scopes, your sight graduations are only correct at the zoom point that you figure out for them, typically minimum zoom. You CAN be just as good with a SFP scope, but you have to practice a lot more to gain the info and then know a lot more numbers at multiple zoom magnifications.