There are few guarantees in life, save perhaps that snarkiness is little restrained on the Internet. Even here, sometimes. You'd think people would know better, but I suppose it's too much to wish for.
Pretty much everything in life is a tradeoff in one way or another. Almost nothing is 100% safe. Living wisely is a never-ending series of decisions, conscious or otherwise, balancing all sorts of variables.
One of the biggest things we have to balance in life as armed citizens is risk versus reward, comfort versus inconvenience. That covers everything from what gun/what caliber we carry, to how often we carry, to where we go, when we go there and what we do while on the trip. For the majority of us, the majority of the time, there are no complications. Sometimes, for whatever reason, things don't go as well. Sometimes we get out of the resulting situation OK on our own, sometimes we need help to get out of it, and sometimes, rarely, we don't do very well.
Human beings are by nature reflective critters. It's one of the things that makes us tick. We learn lessons from the things that happen to us, and we learn lessons from the things that happen to other people as well, if we're smarter than the average bear. Near misses tend to make us
very reflective indeed. It's a human thing. Most of us are wired that way.
Every day I try and make a run through at least the headlines on the gun blogs, to see who's been up to what. It's just one more way to keep up a little bit of awareness about what's going on in another segment of the community of 'gun people.' One of my favorite bloggers for the past year or so is a newbie to the community of gun people. She got here the hard way, in the aftermath of being victimized, but she made all the right decisions after that, by my own lights anyway. She decided it wasn't going to happen again, and she set out to see to it that she would be better able to prevent being victimized again.
A couple of days ago, she looked back on the experience that pushed her into doing things she thought she would never do. If you want to see her reflections, go to
http://agirlandhergun.blogspot.com/2012/03/it-doesnt-matter.html .
If we're reasonably healthy in the mental sense of the word, we learn lessons from life and we move on. We don't spend too much time living in the past or woolgathering and navelgazing when there are things to do, places to go, people to see. We get on with life. "Live and learn," the old saying goes.
The thing is to learn the
right lessons from what life is trying to teach us...