Bobarino
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lots of good advice. i appreciate it. honestly.
A45acp1911,
if you mean that i've made up my mind that i'm not going to dump her, you're right. while we may disagree on this topic, it doesn't overshadow the whole relationship, which is quite wonderful. there is more to her than her views on self defense. while i appreciate all input, i guess i do dismiss the advice to get rid of her. it just ain't gonna happen. sometimes, i do see her as a liability in a bad situation. and i do think its a bit selfish too. i'm not sure how to deal with that. the goal is to open her eyes and help her see that there is a real need for self defense. i'm looking for effective ways to do that. i'm not looking for keep her/dump her advice.
just to reitterate again, there will be no kids. i know lots of people say otherwise, but ya'll have to trust me on this one. i'm not denying the possibility, but the its on the order of 99.44% percent sure that will be no kids.
KillerofGiants,
i like your insights. she does indeed have some issues from her past that i'm sure are playing a major role in her attitude today. perhaps we need to deal with past first? then we can work on her current mindset. thats what i need help dealing with. how do you help someone recognize the real possibility of others doing them harm, and how do i help her be better prepared for it?
remember she's not an anti, she even encourages my shooting hobbies and carrying a gun. but she still doesn't see the need for herself. how do i help her see? is there a way to change her mindset from pacifist to activist when it comes to her own protection? i saw a few stories here that it ws done, but HOW was it done?
once again, i appreciate all the input. its great to get ouside perspectives.
Bobby
A45acp1911,
if you mean that i've made up my mind that i'm not going to dump her, you're right. while we may disagree on this topic, it doesn't overshadow the whole relationship, which is quite wonderful. there is more to her than her views on self defense. while i appreciate all input, i guess i do dismiss the advice to get rid of her. it just ain't gonna happen. sometimes, i do see her as a liability in a bad situation. and i do think its a bit selfish too. i'm not sure how to deal with that. the goal is to open her eyes and help her see that there is a real need for self defense. i'm looking for effective ways to do that. i'm not looking for keep her/dump her advice.
just to reitterate again, there will be no kids. i know lots of people say otherwise, but ya'll have to trust me on this one. i'm not denying the possibility, but the its on the order of 99.44% percent sure that will be no kids.
KillerofGiants,
i like your insights. she does indeed have some issues from her past that i'm sure are playing a major role in her attitude today. perhaps we need to deal with past first? then we can work on her current mindset. thats what i need help dealing with. how do you help someone recognize the real possibility of others doing them harm, and how do i help her be better prepared for it?
remember she's not an anti, she even encourages my shooting hobbies and carrying a gun. but she still doesn't see the need for herself. how do i help her see? is there a way to change her mindset from pacifist to activist when it comes to her own protection? i saw a few stories here that it ws done, but HOW was it done?
once again, i appreciate all the input. its great to get ouside perspectives.
Bobby