Takes true aim here..
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+ 3, IIRC, lol
Jan is spot on, i.e. communications is key, and now that it's official, "the honeymoon is over", the real work of any marriage begins. Give and take, both sides, and knowing what, to give and not to give into, for both. It's an, ongoing, "work in progress" for many years to come.
Aprox 3 yrs ago (time flies) my wife was very anti gun, even though at the time and from the start, some 19yrs ago, I had 2 shotguns and 1 Ruger 22lr rifle.
When I decided to get my first (of 8 total) handgun she was terrified, not happy about it, and semi put her foot down. But, there are certain things this man must have and there are certain things she must have and that fundamental truth, we both agree on.
Basically, it took 6 months for her to even "start to believe" that guns just don't go off, and that I would not accidentally shoot one off in the house.
After the first year of 100% safety (still on-going) she became comfy in trust and, 3yrs later, she has her own gun/s, handles them, "in touch" mostly, and when I leave her alone with one.
It takes time, you must be patient, and not press the issue with her, and just be "the_proof" that guns just don't go off by themselves nor that you may accidentally have an AD or ND in that house, or elsewhere.
Time heals all wounds. Give it time, and you be the the surgeon, and leave no scare, from start to finish.
Ls