First of all, Tom, thank you for the kind words.
Now, onto the current topic of the thread...
NEVER STOP FIGHTING.
Here is the bad news about combat, the reality that none of us want to consider:
-If you are in a fistfight, win or lose, you may get punched.
-If you are in a knife fight, win or lose, you may get cut (make that
will, but that's another story).
-If you are in a gun fight, win or lose, you may get shot.
Here is the good news about combat:
-None of the above are necessarily fatal.
You should not, cannot, and must not throw in the towel, no matter how badly you are injured. If you truly have the will to live, you need to fight for it. You should be the most aggressive, ruthless, rabid badger-with-a-toothache-on-the-worst-day-of-your-life that you can be...and then take that up a notch. Be terrifying. Respond to a threat to you and your loved ones with such vicious, brutal violence that your opponent won't be able to keep up.
The problem with this is being able to control such a response. It's hard, and it's the same thing police officers face every day. Once the threat stops, so must your response. Amping yourself down from such an adrenaline dump is extremely difficult...but it's what you have to do to survive. If you don't fight with the will to utterly dominate and win, you are decreasing your odds before you ever pull the trigger. I'd direct you to the tragic Dinkheller video, which I use in some of my classes as a horrible lesson of what can happen when your opponent is more mentally prepared to win than you are.
For the most part, members here aren't military or SWAT, who must start the fight sometimes. Civilians are forced into a defensive position from moment one, having to react to violence that has already found them. You may not get the first shot off...but you should fight with every fiber of your being to get the LAST shot.
-Mark