Outed By my Mother

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Towards the end of their Thanksgiving visit, after pie and whatnot, I gave my mom a hug. I was carefull to put my arm low, so she'd have to hug me high, but as we let go she ran her hand down my back and felt the pistol in my waistband. i was carrying a full size PT-92 9mm IWB @ about 4 oclock.

Well, she is a pretty strong anti (product of a liberal NYC family) and in front of a crowd she proclaims WHAT'S THAT? I tried to brush it off like it was nothing, but she persisted. Since I cant lie to my mom I told her calmly, "It's a gun."

WHAT!? Why are you carrying a gun? At Thanksgiving? In the house? Is it loaded?

Of Course

At this point the room went silent. All the other guests were good native Mainers who hunt, fish, trap and are generally comfortable with guns around, so other than the social awkwardness they didn't seem to care. Sure was strange for me though. Not another word said for the rest of the afternoon.

Anyway, just thought I'd share with like minded folk.

-JM
 
Not to be a jerk but, for my Mom (and only for her, if she was still alive) I would have left it in the truck.

I understand about sticking to your guns (no pun intended) but you have to respect other people , ESPECIALLY in their own home.

If she was that bothered by it, I would respect her wishes.

Just sayin'.
 
From the OP's post, it seems like the parent's were at HIS house. "Towards the end of their Thanksgiving visit" - so as long as it was in his house, who cares?

And besides, his mom is an adult. Adults should know how to carry themselves in social situations. Outing your son and causing a scene when it's obvious that him carrying a pistol had NO effect on the event to that point is a little immature, IMHO.
 
My 0.02 is you did nothing wrong. Although I try to avoid volunteering hugs as I'm far from a hugger anyway, It's not like you announced it or had any intention of letting others know you're armed.
 
Or better yet, just be honest with her, no matter her political beliefs. She is your mother and she deserves the respect of honesty about your feelings of defense and carrying.

Damian
 
all this occurred at my house. I am armed most all of the time, and am typically quite discrete about it. she just happened to catch on. and vocalize it to a crowd of people. All in all, it doesnt really matter, since we werent in public or anything, and everyone around was family or very close friends, but it was weird for a minute. This ever happen to you guys?


Team P: I was honest, just not upfront. i dont announce when I am carrying but as I said I can't lie to my mom; so when she asked what it was I told her, Its a gun.
 
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JMac - Never happened to me, since I don't carry (pretty pointless since it's illegal here anyhow) but if I did, and my mom found out, she'd have enough respect for me to not make a scene at a family gathering.

I guess I can understand her fears (as illogical as they are) but bottom line, it's your house. IMHO, she should respect you enough to bring up her issues privately, instead of in front of everyone.
 
Adults should know how to carry themselves in social situations.
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Maybe its only becouse I am still young, but it seems to me parents tend towards embarissing there kids.
 
I just got back from my big extended family Turkey Day gathering at my grandmother's house, and open carried a full size 1911. Not a word was said, nor a second glance made all day. And most of my extended family is made up of non-gun owners. :)
 
My distant grandmother and grandfather came up last weekend. After coming back from church I started in on making dinner. As things warmed up in the kitchen I took off my dress shirt, exposing my XD in it's crossbreed holster. She leans to the left a "little" bit so after a few minutes when she saw it there asked "I didn't see you carrying that!" I respond, Always..... "Always?" Yup, only when I'm awake though..... "But why?" Same reason I wear my seat belt in the truck. Just in case, and I hope I don't need either.

Nuff' said, no more questions..... She's from Texas for cyin' out loud!

JM, that was a little rough for your mom to out you like that. Just ain't right.
 
It sounds like she saw an opportunity to publicly embarrass you in front of others, whom she assumed would be as outraged as her. In doing so she hoped to teach you a lesson. This is a very typical antigunner stunt.
 
Tis sad. When my folks were alive (my mom and dad lived in the country, dad was a WWII vet), my brother and I took to wearing our "barbecue guns" at Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. We were usually seen with guns around the house most of our lives, so nothing unusual. I'm sorry most folks don't have this social comfort built into their families.
 
Wore mine, CC.
To my Aunt's new place.
During conversation and general discussion, it became very apparent they were Omabination lovers.
I never let on I'm carrying.
I was carefull in the hugs department.
They know very well I'm a gun and self defense enthusiast..
If anyone were to find I was carrying and complained. I would leave and never return. I'm that adamant about my rights and self defense.
If some weenie, even a relative doesn't understand that, then they immediatedly fall into the sheep catagory. I defend myself and my wife first, sheep second but only if it doesn't put myself or wife into harm's way.
I will not debate or defend my right to self defense.
It's God given. Not man given.
Rant over.
 
bummer...

just remember... "love covers a multitude of sins"

you can chose to not take offense, and then there is no offense and no harm to the relationship.

Humor goes a long ways to dispel awkward situations.

Just remind her next time that up here in the "boonies" we have lot's of wild animals to be concerned about... and tell her that you read in the paper that den of racoons had invaded a home in your town last year and made off with the turkey. :)

If she says "really" .... then the joke will be on her.

Happy T.G.
 
Diocoles, I'm a little different. I might have taken my coat off, and just told them to get over it after they reacted, go on as if nothing had happened, and see what they do. I'm pretty good at ignoring people, unless I really want to agravate them. Oh, hell. I guess I'd agravate them EITHER way..............
 
Bummer man, sounds like she just wanted to publicly embarass you by outing you like that. Things like that shouldnt be discussed in crowds, but rather quietly if shes got a problem with it.

Maybe she'll come around some day. I understand, my parents were not anti-gunners though, just didnt seem to think that a self-defense situation would ever arise. As I always say though, "Just in case"
 
If i knew it would bother my Mother (it never did for 25 years) I would have left it in my car.

My sister in law still does not like guns in her house in spite of the fact I was a LEO for over 30 years and a firearsm instructor for most of the time. I leave it the car when I go there. It's her house so she can make the rules. When she comes to my house she knows there are guns around. That's life.
 
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If i knew it would bother my bother (it never did for 25 years) I would have left it in my car.

My sister in law still does not like guns in her house in spite of the fact I was a LEO for over 30 years and a firearsm instructor for most of the time. I leave it the car when I go there. It's her house so she can make the rules. When she comes to my house she knows there are guns around. That's life.
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It was his house, so she should of had enough respect to have kept her views to herself.
 
I had my .38 in my pocket & my P89 on my side open carry. My mom doesn't like it & nether does one of my sisters but they know me & didn't say a ward. If they knew I was outside showing off my new rifle & trigger mod at the building we rented from the town they may have not liked that. Christmas is different though. When I was a kid there was always a few guns given & we went out in the dark turned on a porch light & set a target in front of the hill. It's not as good as it used to be but one of the kids normaly gets a gun & the first shot is at moms about 1 AM.

If it's my home then like it or leave, if it's there home then pretend to like it or I'll leave.
 
I seen the post about carrying to church. I'm a usher at my church & I carry. I am there to protect the sheep & my pastor. My first responsibility is to Pastor & he knows & expects use to carry & has let the church know also. It is becomeing a bad world out there & Christians are a big target in it.
 
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