NDN-man,
What I said was half-in-jest.
I knew the point you were making, and I agree with you more than I disagree with you.
My assertion, at this point, is that dress is often PART of the body language/outward expression of a person.
The highest-grossing broker I knew at one firm I worked for was exactly as you described-- leather and Harley's.
But if he walked into a "biker" bar, he would be pegged for exactly what he was in approximately 0.005 seconds. He simply didn't "carry" the "look."
I met my best client as a broker once when I got off work and really didn't want to go home. I ended up in an "underground" bar where chains and other interesting items was the decor of the day.
I aimlessly got in (bouncer was slacking, I suppose) in a three-button suit. Somehow, I ended up at the bar talking to a woman who had a shaved head, tattooed eyebrows, and enough body jewelry to cause Airport Security to go into Code Red. She was there with a guy that builds motorcycles.
She thought I was as out of place as I thought she was "unique." I bought a round of drinks, and she took my card.
That next week, I set up a 401(k) for her body piercing studio and started her Keogh plan. Turns out she made more money than most senior brokers in my firm. I was a new broker, and because of that account, I kept my head above water that year.
I kept her as a client until we both retired. I think she lives in Mexico now.
She was there when I got my first tattoo, and there is nothing like the promise of free body piercings for life! LOL
My point is that I DO see what you are saying. I actually PREFER the company of more unique individuals-- even if my post history on THR may indicate otherwise.
If we all were normal, life would be rather boring.
Even so, I do recognize that we create our own perceptions through our choices, and I stand by that.
If a person finds themselves in circumstances that I can discover what they are about, I am usually pleasantly surprised. However, when I pass an anonymous person on the street, we will likely never find out if they are a real thug or if I am a serial killer. We best both be on our guards for the time being.
That's just life.
--John
What I said was half-in-jest.
I knew the point you were making, and I agree with you more than I disagree with you.
My assertion, at this point, is that dress is often PART of the body language/outward expression of a person.
The highest-grossing broker I knew at one firm I worked for was exactly as you described-- leather and Harley's.
But if he walked into a "biker" bar, he would be pegged for exactly what he was in approximately 0.005 seconds. He simply didn't "carry" the "look."
I met my best client as a broker once when I got off work and really didn't want to go home. I ended up in an "underground" bar where chains and other interesting items was the decor of the day.
I aimlessly got in (bouncer was slacking, I suppose) in a three-button suit. Somehow, I ended up at the bar talking to a woman who had a shaved head, tattooed eyebrows, and enough body jewelry to cause Airport Security to go into Code Red. She was there with a guy that builds motorcycles.
She thought I was as out of place as I thought she was "unique." I bought a round of drinks, and she took my card.
That next week, I set up a 401(k) for her body piercing studio and started her Keogh plan. Turns out she made more money than most senior brokers in my firm. I was a new broker, and because of that account, I kept my head above water that year.
I kept her as a client until we both retired. I think she lives in Mexico now.
She was there when I got my first tattoo, and there is nothing like the promise of free body piercings for life! LOL
My point is that I DO see what you are saying. I actually PREFER the company of more unique individuals-- even if my post history on THR may indicate otherwise.
If we all were normal, life would be rather boring.
Even so, I do recognize that we create our own perceptions through our choices, and I stand by that.
If a person finds themselves in circumstances that I can discover what they are about, I am usually pleasantly surprised. However, when I pass an anonymous person on the street, we will likely never find out if they are a real thug or if I am a serial killer. We best both be on our guards for the time being.
That's just life.
--John
