Sx3: stupid sheeple story

[fastbolt]

When I was a young man I had a girlfriend who was anti-gun and anti-violence. Consider her a hippie.

She had a real problem with my interest in firearms and the martial arts. It became a real problem from her perspective ...

Finally, when it came down to a question of either picking her or my interests, I basically explained that I'd been doing the arts and firearms longer than her (in the somewhat uncharitable manner of some young men, I imagine and admit) ... and we parted ways.

A few girlfriends and a year later I once again met up with my former anti-gun girlfriend.

We were married about 90 days later. Firearms and the arts were no longer as much of a problem for her.

That was 30 years ago.

She never developed an interest of her own in firearms, but she did in the arts ... and she never had any further problems in my interest in either. I did buy a gunsafe once we had little tykes crawling around, though.

Life is funny ...

 

[hillbilly]

You have chosen most wisely, grasshopper.

hillbilly

 

[Charles S]

I would have been running when I found out she had a therapist!

+1

I take for granted how lucky I am to have a wife that supports my shooting, hunting, fishing, martial arts, understands and encourages concealed carry and is security conscious.

There are some of us who really do find a soul mate, mine just happens to be beautiful, smart, and my best friend also.

Charles

 

[Janitor]

mine just happens to be beautiful, smart, and my best friend also.

And she just happens to read this board also.

 

[wolf_from_wv]

How can any two walk together, if they are not agreed?

 

[el44vaquero]

Glad you found out that Mail-Order works for some people. Seriously though, I'm glad you found someone that makes you happy. Several of these stories like this never turn out good. Even some folks on here giving advice to divorce over a wife not wanting husband to own guns. "For better or worse as long as you don't mess with my guns."

 

[entropy]

You were wise to get out, and made an excellent choice on the rebound, though I don't recommend rebound dating. Enjoy the SKS and new GF.

Then again, what do I know of dating... It will soon be 10 years that I've been married...

Congrats,WH! What you know about dating must have been enough, for you chose well. (And she's a pretty good shot.. !

 

[Charles S]

And she just happens to read this board also.

LOL.

Charles

 

[Missashot]

I am probably going to get a good flaming over this, but here goes: What were you doing dating someone who was not compatible as you in your belief in guns in the first place? This is such a huge issue, along with religion, politics, abortion, etc. If I were you, I would have tried to get this out in the air almost as soon as I met her. (You did not state how long you had been dating, or I may have missed it. If so, I apologize.) Also, another tip off to be careful on "hot-topic" issues is the therapist. (Most people do not need one.)
I personally think you made the right choice by leaving her and finding someone more suited to your beliefs. Good luck to you in the future.
But on a more personal issue (mine) these threads about "leaving someone and they are just stupid because they don't like guns" are becoming too many and very old. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. Whether we think they are right or not. All we can do is to try to persuade these people to come around to our way of thinking, or to stay away from them.

 

[CW Spook]

You have chosen most wisely, grasshopper.

hillbilly

All these such threads remind me of the old knight in "Indiana Jones & the Last Crusade" when he said; "..he chose poorly", as the villian melted. I suppose if you come to your interest in guns late in life it might be different, but I can't imagine having a serious relationship with someone whose values were that different from mine. I count myself fortunate. I met my wife 42 years ago at an Izaak Walton League conservation camp, so it's never been an issue. She's always been supportive of having guns around for both sport and protection, even if she's not terribly interested in them herself.

 

[Kramer Krazy]

.....these threads about "leaving someone and they are just stupid because they don't like guns" are becoming too many and very old.

......and don't forget that the "Search" function is a really nice feature of this board.

 

[cbsbyte]

Congrats, and hope you have many happy years together.
Anyway, been there, done that and brought home the t-shirt.

 

[Johnny_Yuma]

Wait a couple of months.

She will be calling you at 2 AM, drunk on wine she drank while soaking in bubble bath and listening to Yanni, begging you to come over with a weapon because she "thought she heard something" outside. DON'T GO!

 

[Standing Wolf]

A relationship is not about what must be given up but about what is added to the relationship. You know it is going to work when the sum is greater than the parts.

Thanks, eh? I needed that.

 

[kirkcdl]

I admire your patience for waiting 3 months for a change in attitude.My interest in firearms precedes my gf's entry into my life.When I ask her if she wants to go shoot,the answer has always been an enthusiastic"Sure!".Almost 2 years now,and I don't think I would've been compatible for 3 dates,much less 3 months plus however much time your relationship preceded the gun blowup.My dating"strategy"consists of:First date-somewhere public,neutral ground,but quiet so we can talk a bit.Second date-dinner at my house,I'm a very good cook.Third date-"Wanna go shooting?".As far as the "She's stupid-dump her" mentality mentioned in a previous post,I think it all boils down to which of your interests take priority,a relationship with this particular person,or a hobby you can enjoy whether or not your relationship lasts.It's a personal choice,but I feel if I meet a woman that is unmovable in an anti position,there will be no relationship.Not necessarily because of the gun thing,but because of the lack of compromise.My last gf was not anti,just totally uninterested.In her favor,though,occasionally she'd go when her teenage son and I went shooting,I convinced her once to fire my 12ga,and one shot brought her to tears.(Really)But,she was a good sport,we agreed that maybe shooting just wasn't her thing.I don't miss the old one though,the current one is almost as avid about shooting as I am...

 

[tuna]

Wife was indifferent when we started out. Took her to the range and she enjoys it. Not obsessed about guns, but has a realistic attitude about them and a tolerant attitude toward me. Couple New Year's Eve's ago we were at a friend of a friend's house. Conversations turned to guns.

Friend of Friend - "You have a GUN??? "

Wife - "Yeah, he's got a ton of them, I don't know 2 or 3 dozen"

Friend of Friend - "I wouldn't feel safe in a house with guns."

Wife - "I used to be like that, now I don't feel safe in a house WITHOUT guns"

Me -

 

[silverlance]

thanks for all the nods

I wouldn't normally have posted, but I've seen a lot of "my girlfriend says that xxxx is xxxx" and "how can I convince my wife that xxxxx is really xxxxxx" kind of threads lately.

when i was in that relationship i kept sighing inwardly and thinking, oh boy, this is what i get for living in california...

but then discovered that, thankfully, people who believe that guns will spontaneously leap up and murder your children in their sleep are about as common in the world as those who believe that the sun is a hundred miles up and extended warranties are a great bargian.

my gf is not quite mail order, she's actually older than i am and a citizen on her own. she just happens to have been brought up differently - more than her commie training, i think, it was the experience of living under a secretive corrupt government where political dissenters were often either made to dissapear or assassinated (her father's friend was the guy who was killed in london by a poisoned kgb umbrella tip, if you know who i'm talking about).

as for rebound - well, it wasn't quite as i our friendship had grown closer as my relationship got increasingly filled with directives and ultimatums. time will tell how the cookie crumbles, but so far i'm happy where i am.

oh! and the yugo is such a nice gun, even if it weights more than my benelli m1 and p228 COMBINED.

 

[mr.trooper]

This is a major misconception about relationships. Everyone seems to believe there must be some kind of sacrifice to have a relationship or marriage.

This is not true. At least if you expect it to last. A relationship is not about what must be given up but about what is added to the relationship. You know it is going to work when the sum is greater than the parts.

As you can see for yourself, life is much better adding to it rather than taking from it.

Cheers. Enjoy the SKS (and the girlfriend )

Rex just hit the nail on the head folks. You are bolth who you are. No more, no less.

It is highly unwise to get involved with anyone, romantic or otherwise, that expects you to make sacrifices, in order for them to grace you with their presence.

 

[english kanigit]

Silverlance, if you don't mind my asking... what country is this fine lass from?

I ask because I work at a university with several young women from formerly combloc countries and I'm curious if this is common.

 

[silverlance]

bulgaria

guess what fine export i'm getting for christmas from that country?
can you? can you?

=)

 

[english kanigit]

Is it a Mak or an AK clone?


You, sir, are a dog.

 

[one45auto]

My ex-wife was a hoplophobe, too. I wish I'd had the wisdom to do what silverlance did fifteen years ago, it would have saved me a world of trouble - to say nothing of the money lost in attorney fees. :banghead:

However since the separation I've had better success. One woman I've been seeing for about four months now is on the pro-gun side, although she feels that one gun is all you need.

She's been through several "tests" so far, some deliberate and some accidental. So far, so good. The first was when she spent the night and discovered the Glock 19 I keep under my pillow. All she did was smile, shake her head, and ask me why I didn't keep it on the nightstand like everyone else. Another "test" occurred earlier this week, when we were preparing to go to the grocery store late at night. (It's only about a mile away) I picked up my Glock 36, chambered a snap cap (she didn't know that), stuffed it into my back pocket, and said "let's go." I was waiting for her to freak out but instead her only reaction was to look exhausted ask "Oh, so I take it we're walking there?" Naturally I removed the gun before exiting the house and that's when it dawned on her that it had all been a set up. "Wait a minute, that's a dummy round - isn't it? You stinker!"

She might be a keeper. We'll see.

 

[Aguila Blanca]

You have to be with someone that shares your core beliefs.

x 1000

 

[wingnutx]

Mine was moderately anti when we started dating, but has come around quite nicely.

And there is nothing wrong with having 4 cats

 

[TexasRifleman]

She will be calling you at 2 AM, drunk on wine she drank while soaking in bubble bath and listening to Yanni, begging you to come over with a weapon because she "thought she heard something" outside. DON'T GO!

If you do go, shoot the Yanni record.