Honestly - somethings one cannot prepare for very well.
I understand civil unrests (riots), tornado's , ice storms, and other things Mother Nature tosses out, been through these and lessons learned as a kid still apply.
Serious Situations I find myself in along with others around my age [I am nearing 52 ] Serious life diseases of close folks such as cancer and them dying. Last fall 3 close folks died in a very very short time period.
Aging parents. I/we find aging parents are something that is ...well...plenty of books on picking out baby names, and how to raise a baby and all. They do not have a "How to raise a Parent Book" much less "How to take care of Aging Parents" book.
I am an older returning College Student. Had a 36 y/o person have a stroke at the College I attend - easy going guy , nothing gets to him, still taking care of a his dad with Alzheimer's, he suffered a mild stroke.
One person in mid forties had a heart attack, keeping tabs on older parents and she got a funny feeling and rushed to Emergency room.
Both of these folks have sibs, just not taking care of parents, and "the eldest one is supposed to do that".
Caregiver's disease is what some call this.
There is a parallel of Pediatrics and Geriatrics if you will. Just like a kid "has to have" that cereal advertised during cartoons, or "my favoritite place" is whatever fast food joint has the neatest kids toy in a kid's meal ...
Older folks are targeted and marketed to by advertising. In a 30 min TV show, 12 minutes of commercials and by the time one finishes the commericals, all sorts of aches, pains and "something is wrong with me".
My mom is not stupid, she is human, and yes like me, you and all of us, has her faults.
I have busted my tail doing Pharmacology searches, cross referencing my 77 y/o mom's prescription meds. She was looking bad, feeling bad and I looked up every medicine she had taken for a year, and current meds.
I basically sent a "book" with her on her doctor's visit with typed questions she had, and I had. I even made copies for the nurse to research and to get with the Doctor's on.
Mom was taken off 4 meds right off the bat. She started feeling better in a week. Fifth med she had to be weaned off of - cannot just stop taking this med.
You know how many take a "baby aspirin" for heart attack prevention? Yeah, well getting mom "straightened out with her arthritis meds, Naproxin, Tylenol and "can I take this with that and ..." - whatever else...I gave up fussing about the $#%ing throw rugs she has all over the house.
Like a kid, mom wanted immediate satisfaction from taking a med.
Risk for falls - dear me. My mom has neuropathy in both feet. I am 51 y/o and being scolded in a store " I am not going to use a cane and IF I did, it would not be one that looked like a "Old ladies cane".
Sorta like a kid chewing out a parent trying on all them clothes, especially that mom bit - you know - "stand up straight, don't slouch, and let me see if this fits". Mom's measure shirts holding against your back and all your fellow kid peers, jeering and making fun of you.
Got two canes, she approved, one in her car along with umpteen bazillion umbrellas, and one in the house.
I damn near tripped over one of them $#%&ing throw rugs ( one I had removed, seemed it crawled back into house) seeing my mom actually using a cane.
NO. I did not say a darn word about the cane, no grin, no smile - totally blind to the fact she was.
I know better than to say anything - if something is being done I have "suggested".
I will not list all the safety and security measures I have done to mom's house - just a lot has been done.
I cannot get her on the phone - okay...*maybe* she knocked the phone off the hook, or that new portable - she did not hang up right.
I drive over to check...
She is not home.
I piddle and pretend to be doing a chore and "I got lost and liked to have never made it home, I was a bit scared and this town has grown".
Here is a lady that used to get all over town, with 4 brats needing to be 4 places at the same time - and we were not late.
She got lost, scared in a city she has lived in since she was 17.
Aw phooey! Just shut up and listen, not scold, instead firm and supportive with some ideas.
She had to hand pick something for a grandkid. It had to wrapped and the whole bit. It broke her heart to hear this grandkids parents took one look and off to a store in their city to exchange.
Mom/ Grandma finally asked, after she got over being so upset, taking all this time , trouble getting lost and all the mailing...
"Can you use Internet and just send a Gift Cert to this grandkid, I am not going through all that again...it really hurt my feelings"
No, I did not say 'I told you so' - I instead fired up a laptop and got a gift cert sent.
The other day, remote control would not open garage door, and she went totally blank in her panic as to the code on exterior key pad.
Remote just needed a new battery. She used to "fix" toys for us kids when they "quit" by putting fresh batteries in, trying to hurry, and we kids not wanting to understand how all this stuff worked "just fix it".
Mom just wanted her garage door "fixed". I reminded her of the code, and this code is so easy (secure) still easy. "I panicked and made something hard out of something easy".
Serious Situations for some of us - that feeling we get in the gut about aging parents.
One of my closest friends knew his wife was going to die of cancer. Still the morning he woke up early to get the paper, his wife was alive and spoke to him in her sleepy voice. He goes back to bed after reading and coffee and she turn over, looks at him on last time, said a few words and gone.
He knew this was going to happen, all prepared , and arrangements made...still not totally prepared when it did.
Life and some of it Serious Situations is like fishing. Too many folks want to fish way out there...
...when the fish / serious needs are much much closer to the bank.