What's the best....

[gtd]

Here's a story . . . .

We lived in a bad apartment building in an almost-bad neighborhood. I insisted, and "made" my wife but a .32 revolver. Affordable, simple. She would have none of it, and it stayed hidden in its case in a closet.

One day I came home from work and the loaded revolver was resting on the dresser. I asked, "Is there a problem?" To which she replied, "Not now." Nothing more was said about it, and I left the gun where it was.

She has zero interest in guns, shooting, and self-defense training. She has a very keen fight-or-flight interest when the situation demands it. God help anyone who tries to break in when I'm not home to buffer the response.

That's the way it's going to be, and it works for us.

 

[Onward Allusion]

rellascout

Quote: There is no "best". Get her training. A revolver would generally be simpler than a semi-auto for newbies.

Most of all it is a matter of mindset. Sell it to your wife by stating that everyone in the family needs to take responsibility for its safety, including her. Ask her what she would do if there was a home invasion and she was the only thing standing between the BG and her daughter. I know it sounds harsh and callous, but sometimes reality is that way.


Honestly why can't people accept that some people do not like to shoot, do not have an interest in shooting and that trying to scare or manipulate them into shooting is not a good idea.

Please read my post again. It was assumed that by taking responsibility for the safety of one's family requires shooting firearms. Sure, firearms is one way but there are many different ways a person can take responsibility for the safety of their family - they are too numerous to count. Mindset is the first step. If it requires taking a person out of their comfort zone, so be it. Everyone (if they're a decent person) is responsible for their own safety and that of their loved ones, including the OP's wife. Of course it is fine if the OP's wife doesn't like firearms, but there are many different avenues (pepper spray, taser, knife, locking doors, security system, big dog, cell phone...etc..etc), but based on the OP's post it doesn't sound like there's a plan on how she would defend her and her daughter when the OP is not around. That is the first step.

 

[hso]

Either encourage her to find what she likes on her own or leave her alone and spend some money on hardening your house.

She doesn't have to want to learn to use a gun and the harder you push the less likely you are to get the result you want. You've done your part, shown her how to run the AR, let her do hers.

 

[doc2rn]

She believes she has the right weapon at home...YOU BP! I know your thought process and hers move separately, and my GF thinks the same way. She sleeps like a baby as long as I keep "it" my Colt Diamondback on "my" side of the bed. It is fine by me cause she knows where it is, just in case. I have even caught her holding it a time or two, but never approached her just because I wanted her to be comfortable and not embarrassed. Women do things by mood not logic, so make her happy and see where it goes.

 

[kingpin008]

Women do things by mood not logic

Can we keep the sexist generalizations out of this discussion? I'm not trying to be the PC Police, but stuff like that add nothing to the discussion and may very well turn off folks who come here looking for info.

 

[Remo223]

had you not brought attention to it probably no one would've noticed.

 

[jon_in_wv]

]I believe we all have our roles to play on earth. Just because I am of a defensive mindset doesn't mean others think the same way. If your wife had musical talent, and you don't, should she force you to take piano lessons? I'm in the Same boat you are with your wife. Show what you can but sometimes you have to accept you are the protector so she can be something else.

 

[Mikenmel08]

My wife is not into guns either but knows how to handle and fire one just incase I am not home. But as for her carrying one that's not going to happen. We reached a happy medium this year finally after years of discussions on this matter. She let me buy her a Taser that she keeps with her at all times, and gives me a little more piece of mind as well. Just another option.