Stance
Howdy Tiny, and welcome in.
I think Barbara's switch probably came after she cooled a little rather than
as a fence-straddle deal. Many topics here are hot buttons for some...and most lighten up after havin' their say.
The way I see this one is this:
Monkeyleg asked for volunteers to "man" an exhibition booth. He asked for a specific gender and named a specific criteria, as is his right. After all...it's HIS
idea and HIS show....and his ideas as to how he wanted to present it. He doesn't have to provide a balanced representation of all segments of the population, since it's a private arrangement. The choice lies with the potential recruits. They can respond or not. Ain't that America?
The thread then started to head due south, because it punched a few of aforementioned hot buttons. In other words...a veer off-topic at best, and a straight-up hijack at worst. This is often a reason that a moderator will enter the fray with a (hopefully) rational/calming comment or two as a means of letting the participants know that it's drawn attention and warning signals have been noted...and that it could reach critical mass momentarily. Since these things sometimes degrade into personal attacks and/or insults...it's a means of avoiding having to warn or ban anyone for a cardinal rule violation.
It usually works, and allows cooler heads to prevail. I'm hesitant to ban, and would rather take a poke with a sharp stick than ban a contributing member who slips once and lets a topic or another member get under his/her skin...and hit REPLY before he/she has had time to think it through. Once it's said, it can't be un-said.
Cheers all!