CCW at a dinner party?

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jlbraun

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Or, more precisely, do you notify a homeowner that you don't know well that you're bringing a CCW to their dinner party? I'm anticipating stopping all alcohol consumption when I get a CHL, so that's not an issue. I'm more concerned about legality and propriety. I'm in Colorado.

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Notify? I wouldn't. Concealed is concealed.

However, I would use my best judgement and if I knew, or even thought, that the host would disapprove, I would not carry in their home.
 
No, you don't need to share with everyone that you're carrying simply because you're on their property. Unless you're specifically told that they wish to have a gun free house, I wouldn't give it a second thought.
 
1st I'd never allow anyone to bring a firearm into my house unless they were INVITED WITH THE FIREARM.

I think your question is absurd.

Bringing a concealed weapon into someones home without their prior consent is begging to be shot or humiliated in front of everyone else there.

I've had a CWP for over 30yrs and I've never even considered carrying a gun into someone else's home.

WHY would you even consider such an action? Are you in fear of your life at this person's home? If so, why the hell are you going?
 
jlbraun said:
I'm more concerned about legality and propriety. I'm in Colorado.

Legally you don't have to get permission to CCW in private homes ... if its discovered and you're asked to leave you're guilty of trespassing if you refuse to leave ... thats it. Unless the host of the party has metal detectors set up.

If you think they would object than maybe you should consider hanging out with a better class of people :p

As for alcohol, Colorado is not a "Zero Tolerance" state ... you can CCW and consume alcohol as long as you don't carry "under the influence" (so if you can't stop after a drink or two with dinner, then by all means don't drink at all).

Propriety? Concealed means concealed and telling a host you plan on CCWing at their party is less proper than keeping your mouth closed and piece covered (you wouldn't discuss what kind of underwear you are going to wear to this dinner party would you? Unless its one of "those kind of parties" ;) )
 
Under Alaska's new "Vermont carry" law:

HB 102, signed by the Governor on June 11, 2003 changes Alaska Statute 11.61.220 to allow anyone 21 or older, other than convicted felons, who may legally carry a firearm to also carry it concealed without having to obtain a special permit. The possession of a firearm at courthouses, school yards, bars and domestic violence shelters will continue to be prohibited. Alaskans may still obtain a concealed carry permit if they want reciprocity with other states or want to continue to be exempt from background checks when purchasing firearms.

A person 21 or older may be charged with carrying a concealed deadly weapon under AS 11.61.220 if s/he

a) fails to immediately inform a peace officer that s/he is carrying a concealed handgun

b)fails to allow the officer to secure the weapon or fails to secure the weapon at the direction of the peace officer, or

c)carries the weapon concealed within another person’s residence, unless s/he has first obtained the express permission of an adult residing there, whether or not the person has a concealed handgun permit.
 
Well there's no shortage of guys without common sense on this board.

I don't give a damn if your CCW laws say it's okay or not... it's absolutely a stupid idea to carry a firearm into someone's home without first obtaining their permission..

I can almost guarantee that if you ask, you'll be told to keep your ass home.

If I caught someone in my home with a concealed weapon, they'd be explaining to the lord that it was legal.

Guaranteed there's no jury in the land that'd convict me for shooting your ass for bringing a loaded concealed weapon to a "dinner party" at my home.... and the fact that you did this without my knowledge will be enough for me to assume you intended to harm someone in my home.

And consuming ANY alcohol while carrying is also a stupid idea... I can think of probably a hundred situations that you'd wish you'd never had a single drink if you ever had to use that weapon.

And for some reason I thought most guys with CCWs were like me "responsible" and courteous..

Do any of you guys really think it's 'courteous" to your host to bring a loaded firearm onto their property... do you???

A person invites you into their home as a guest..... and you guys think it's ok to pack your piece....

jeez, no wonder the anti's are claiming we're all a bunch of "cowboy idiots" they've been reading your posts!!
 
kaferhaus said:
1st I'd never allow anyone to bring a firearm into my house unless they were INVITED WITH THE FIREARM.
"And, oh by the way, please do bring your gun.":rolleyes: And do you frisk everybody that enters your house?
kaferhaus said:
I think your question is absurd.
Many of these answers prove that the question is definitely NOT absurd.
kaferhaus said:
Bringing a concealed weapon into someones home without their prior consent is begging to be shot or humiliated in front of everyone else there.
Spoken like somebody that doesn't get much company.
kaferhaus said:
I've had a CWP for over 30yrs and I've never even considered carrying a gun into someone else's home.
Bully for you! Same can't be said about many of us.
kaferhaus said:
WHY would you even consider such an action? Are you in fear of your life at this person's home? If so, why the hell are you going?
Not speaking for him, but, I like carrying every time I get into my truck for ANY reason. Then I don't relish the idea of packing it away in a locked box in the truck and take the chance of it getting stolen along with the truck. I guess I simply don't live in the Utopia you seem to. Though I will admit, the people I know that I visit have no problem with it. Infidel said it best.
 
Infidel said:
Notify? I wouldn't. Concealed is concealed.

However, I would use my best judgement and if I knew, or even thought, that the host would disapprove, I would not carry in their home.

I agree with this , I think one needs to respect another person's home. So I either would not carry if I thought they would disapprove or not go. I personally would not invite someone I didnt know well enough.
 
I would assume that most anyone I would invite to my home for a dinner party (or be invited by) would be something of a friend. I usually have gotten around to letting my friends know I carry and I ask them if they have a problem with me carrying in their houses. Many carry themselves so it isn't that big of a deal.

I can't imagine feeling threatened by the idea of a dinner guest carrying and if they do it everywhere else, it can't rationally be viewed as an insult.

If I didn't trust them not to attack me, I probably wouldn't have invited them to a meal that involves knives. :rolleyes:
 
Dissarming is absurd.Keep it concealed and your mouth shut or don't accept the invitation to the party.As some have said if they point it out and humiliate you? Thats the tell tale sign of a moron and thats the last place you want to be,armed or not.
 
kaferhaus said:
1st I'd never allow anyone to bring a firearm into my house unless they were INVITED WITH THE FIREARM.

I think your question is absurd.

Bringing a concealed weapon into someones home without their prior consent is begging to be shot or humiliated in front of everyone else there.

I've had a CWP for over 30yrs and I've never even considered carrying a gun into someone else's home.

WHY would you even consider such an action? Are you in fear of your life at this person's home? If so, why the hell are you going?

I can respect that opinion. As a self-contained opinion, it makes sense. The property rights and rules of the homeowner have lots of sway in the right-thinking world.

However, I can't say it's absolute either.

Do I have any business knowing what's under my guest's clothes that's not a firearm? Where is the line drawn? Does their person and property cease being their person and property because they've willingly set foot on mine? Can I give everyone a cavity search?

I admit these are extreme examples, but they prove the point. There is a line where items that are secure, concealed, and unacknoledged can't possibly be of any true harm to myself, should my guests have them on their person.

It's arguable that an unacknoledged firearm that is safe, secure, and 100% concealed from detection the entire time it's on his person in someone else's home could fall into that category. If the host never knows, and the gun was responsibly carried, what is the true harm?

What if I were a conservative Christian Scientist who eschews all medical assistance & drugs, and one of my guests is wearing an insulin pump, or a nitroglycerine heart patch?

Perhaps I'm Jewish or Muslim, and one of my gentile guests has a lunch containing pork still working it's way through his bowels, and he enters my home?

OTOH, things like a jury-rigged and unstable explosive, a vial of gaseous poison, or a paper bag full of hornets is another matter. Those all have great potential to force themselves on the external environment outside their person. However, we all know that quality firearms properly holstered have zero chance of "going off". Unlike the media, we know that guns only "go off" when placed in fire, or when they're being manipulated by someone who is careless.

While everyone has a right to what and who enters their private property, I can't also help but feel that people are little wandering islands of private property too. If something I may find objectionable enters my home, but it's secure on my guest's person, and has little or no risk of forcing itself on the external environment, I'm not sure it's my business.

The very reason we carry is that we don't know when or where we may need it. If we did, it would be easier to just avoid those places and times.

jlbraun still needs to travel to the party, and travel home, what about then? While the odds are against it, can the host garuantee that there won't be a home invasion robbery during the party? (It has happened, and the results were horrific. They were eventualy all killed, but before, they were held for days and forced to "perform" on each other for the invaders...)

It's a complex issue, and one with many legitamate opinions. You ultimately need to make your own decision as to what is acceptable.

- Ask the host.

- Don't carry.

- Carry on the way there and back, and keep it locked in your car.

- Carry and tell no one, if you can be very sure you won't be "made", and you know how to carry securely and safely.

- Compromise: Some people here carry a mousegun for when they're "unarmed". :)

Frankly, this is one of those sticky issues where you can go around forever, and both sides (and in between) have valid points and arguments. Your safety and your host's rights balance out pretty evenly. Do whatever is discreet and safe. If that means you don't carry, then don't carry. If that mean's you can carry, carry.

It's up to you.
 
Bringing a concealed weapon into someones home without their prior consent is begging to be shot or humiliated in front of everyone else there.

Which part of concealed do you not understand?

If I caught someone in my home with a concealed weapon, they'd be explaining to the lord that it was legal.

So, let's sum up your attitudes quickly:
1) You are willing to invite people you don't trust, and
2) If given the opportunity, and being reasonably certain of minimal legal fuss, you are perfectly willing to kill any unoffensive person that you evidently thought enough of to invite for dinner.

no wonder the anti's are claiming we're all a bunch of "cowboy idiots"

Yes, it's pretty obvious why they think that of some.

John
 
I think it would be rude to take a gun to someone's house without their permission. My neighbor across the street is a gunnie too. When I got my Kimber I put it in the car walked across the street told him I finally got it and then I went to my car brought it to his house and showed him. I wouldn't bring a gun to another person's house unless they knew about it. It's called courtesy.


Now telling someone they're stupid(or just saying so) because they are asking is rude. I guess living in the south for 6 years is starting to get to me. In a couple more years I may even become a decent human being.

Call the guy and ask if he's a gunnie and he says sure. Then say something like "I didn't think it would be proper for me just to show up at your home with my firearm" or something along those lines. If they say no and this is a wife event then stow it in the car if it's a good area. If this isn't a big deal event then just don't go.


Well that's my .02
 
Gee, kill someone because he had a legal gun on his person. Better be carefull if you are not real good shot; it might be self defense and you loose. Maybe someone should have his permit revoked if that is all that life is worth. By all means, carry your weapon, or even two, and we'll step outside and touch off a few into the targets I always have set up by the woods.
 
I'd like to believe I follow a common sense approach. I don't recall ever asking a store owner how he felt about my packing a firearm in his premises; it was legal, and I kept it concealed, per the law.

As for dinner invitations, I certainly wouldn't be waving my firearm around, but then, I don't do that anyway.

Some of the things anonymous people claim are kinda funny, when they're not sad or stupid. :)

On the other hand, if I were staying in someone else's house, where there was any chance that firearm might not be under my personal control 24/7, I would indeed broach the subject, unless I kept the firearm locked in my vehicle.

John
 
Law "says" one is supposed to here.

Well I've been in honkey-tonks where folks were more civil, polite and respectful, than "dinner parties" of kinfolks or co-workers.

I fired kinfolks, friends, and quit participating in some things and going certain places... and
... I do not have to be around folks too stupid to take measures for their own safey, and I'll be damned if I am going to be around folks that would deny me MY inalienable rights.

Folks have to get from point A to point B.

BGs know "groups of persons" offer great opportunies, whether it be the vehicles parked themselves, or the persons inside.

BGs watch for Weddings, Funerals as opportunities of Prey. Folks are distracted by emotions inside, residences are left unattended...

"Gatherings" may mean jewelry, and other enticements...depends on "dinner party".

A Responsible Firearm owner WILL be responsible in having a designated driver in a group, not be intoxicated with a firearm, not be dis-armed [no "weapon"] and for damn sure not intentionally go somewhere where trouble is, where trouble may show up en-route /returning and where someone is likely to try and "control" them or "change" their perspectives on matters such as CCW.

Simple, do not invite me , I got better things to do than RSVP anyway.

Folks I hang with, just part of our Moral Law, not "if" you are packing ...folks may wonder "how many?"

Just don't call me or "us" with bad news, whining about something that happened.

Yeah this especially applies to some folks supposedly "into" guns. Worse than folks that have quit smoking...

I'll go outside to smoke, I am respectful and courteous. I will wipe my feet before I enter...

Concealed is concealed and none of anyone's damn business but mine.


Steve
 
I only invite friends and family over to my home. Carry if you want to. I know who has guns and who don`t. If alcohol is to be served, ALL friends and family know I don`t mix guns and boose. And you won`t either at my home.

Me, I don`t carry 24/7, if I were invited to a dinner party and did not know the party hosts I would not carry. If there were any doubts about the people, place, environment I would not go. I don`t need the headaches of LEO`s wanting to know what happened, why and when if I can avoid it.

A bottle of red wine, a couple of porterhouses, salad , cigar, and my wife, I am happy. Hell I think I can cook as good or better than most :rolleyes: . Maybe thats why I don`t do much takeout. I`m going to lite the smoker. :cool:
 
JShirley said:
Which part of concealed do you not understand?

So, let's sum up your attitudes quickly:
1) You are willing to invite people you don't trust, and
2) If given the opportunity, and being reasonably certain of minimal legal fuss, you are perfectly willing to kill any unoffensive person that you evidently thought enough of to invite for dinner.

John

Answer to 1: How many times have you read about a killer.... "he seemed so nice", "couldn't imagine him hurting anyone", "he was our neighbor for years, never caused a bit of trouble"...

Answer to 2: If you're in my home with a weapon I didn't know about, I'll be forced to assume that I didn't know you at all, that you've somehow "fooled me" and you've no business with a weapon in my home unless you're planing to use it to harm either my family or my guests.

Sorry guys, no arguement you can possibly come up with justifies bringing a concealed weapon into some else's home without their prior consent.

In my opinion anyone who thinks this is a courteous thing to do and should be "ok".... I'd hate to think of what other ideas are running around in your heads as to what appropriate behaviour is.

I'm done with the argument, you cowboys can nuzzle up to each other and play big pistol packer macho all you want.

Maybe I should point out to your legislators that they've left a huge loophole in the CCW laws if they indeed allow you to carry into a residence without the owners permission...

Alaska's law is a good one, as is our's.... if you're found packing on private property without consent, up to a year in jail, permanent revocation of your CCW and loss of your 2nd amendment rights.... no gun ownership ever.
 
kaferhaus said:
If I caught someone in my home with a concealed weapon, they'd be explaining to the lord that it was legal.

Wow! ... just Wow!

So you're telling me that you would feel justified in murdering someone because they carried a gun into your house? Not threatened you, not "brandished" the firearm, just a licensed individual with a piece under their clothes?

Answer to 2: If you're in my home with a weapon I didn't know about, I'll be forced to assume that I didn't know you at all, that you've somehow "fooled me" and you've no business with a weapon in my home unless you're planing to use it to harm either my family or my guests.
Using your logic we should just ban CCW all together because the same thing can be said for the guy behind you in line at Walmart.

Sorry guys, no arguement you can possibly come up with justifies bringing a concealed weapon into some else's home without their prior consent.
I got one: ITS NONE OF YOUR EFFING BUSINESS WHAT'S UNDER MY CLOTHES!

Of course I guess you'd be just as justified in murdering someone for wearing bikini briefs too as they are obviously a sexual predator :rolleyes:



Now if you've made it clear BEFORE your guests arrival that guns are not welcome, or if you put a sign up on the front door of your house saying "no guns allowed" thats fine ... you have every right to do that and I would expect you to ask anyone who violated your policy to leave (and I would respect your wishes by not darkening your door with my presence in the first place) ... but killing someone because of some imagined breach of etiquette? Its no wonder there are people out there who want us all disarmed.
 
JShirley said:
I'd like to believe I follow a common sense approach. I don't recall ever asking a store owner how he felt about my packing a firearm in his premises; it was legal, and I kept it concealed, per the law.

Exactly.

Kaferhaus said:
If I caught someone in my home with a concealed weapon, they'd be explaining to the lord that it was legal.

And what do you suppose the courts will do to you when they find that your "armed invader" was a non-violent and invited guest in your home? I can tell you it'll be the last dinner party you throw for quite some time.

Unless an individual has a sign posted or verbally conveys to me that his/her home is a gun-free zone, I'll be packing. If I am not allowed to carry, I'll send myself packing elsewhere. The only time I disarm is when I am going somewhere that it is prohibited by law, such as a court house (which is also the DMV here). As for private businesses that prohibit CCW, they simply do not get my money and I recommend to anyone I know that they not patronize that business.
 
THR Dinner Party Etiquette

Coats and purses go into spare bedroom atop the bed.
Leaves the Coat Racks free for Long-Guns with slings. :)

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You might suspect a THR Bunch out to eat - Folks all sitting with backs to wall, exits near / in sight.
Just easier for food to be served that way is all...;)

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I've been to many "dinner parties". Some low key, some fancy affairs. In another life, folks liked what many of us had access to. We took precautions. Get a "gathering" of folks like this - one does not take risks. Be it at a Private Home, Private Dining area, or Office Setting.

I / We know all too well about getting to and fro, and attending some "functions".
 
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