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Anyone married to an anti?

Discussion in 'General Gun Discussions' started by doseyclwn, Jan 10, 2003.

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  1. doseyclwn

    doseyclwn Member

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    I don't really know if you'd call my wife an anti. She has a violent desire to not shoot with me, but she doesn't really give me crap about it, except when I try to get her to shoot. I wondered if any of y'all have similar experiences.

    Me and Wifey
     
  2. Marko Kloos

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    I was once married to an anti, and the resulting rift in philosophies and attitudes was too substantial. I know of lasting marriages where one party was anti-gun, though.
     
  3. AnklePocket

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    She's not a total anti, but does feel that laws should restrict the liberty of the law-abiding because of the behavior of criminals. She's coming around, though, as this widespread notion is clearly 180 degrees misguided. She's a good project, I guess.
     
  4. Neal Bloom

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    I was married to and anti but now she is my shooting partner. It took awhile but she values my (now our) commitment to safety and responsible ownership.
     
  5. foghornl

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    Wife is a neutral...Encourages me to shoot, and bought my last 3 new weapons, but doesn't want to shoot.

    Actually got her to the range (indoor) one day, was getting her close to the line, when the guy in the next lane cut loose with some outrageous hand cannon...454 Casull, I think. Even caused ME to flinch. Ceiling tiles on the adjacent 3 lanes flopped like a trout on a hook every time he fired. Haven't gotten her back in the range since. :banghead:
     
  6. ruger357

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    Not any more.;) :) :D :evil:
     
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    Doggone dosey quit complaining, she's way too cute for you! :neener: (Like I have any room to talk :scrutiny: )

    I've always wondered about how someone could wind up married to an anti. Seems there would have to be a great many more philosphical conflicts that would cause a lot of other stress.
     
  9. Ullr

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    Will be in a few months. Her mother's uncle committed suicide with a gun, which instilled a strong sense of hoplophobia in her. She passed it on to her daughter in a big way.

    She's conceded the need to keep one for home defense (note: the argument that convinced her was "What happens if someone is in our house and trying to hurt our future children?"), and she is willing to tolerate a hunting rifle. .22s for cheap practice have also been approved. But she's not happy about any of it.

    Frankly, neither am I. But, as others have mentioned in the past, there's more to life than shooting, and in all other ways she's a wonderful woman. Love is a funny thing -- we argued about it frequently, and I have no real hope of "converting" her any time soon, but this is a compromise we can both live with.
     
  10. Camshaft

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    i dont think i could do it. ive ended a date with a girl because she started in on an anti spew.
     
  11. Gray Peterson

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    If you see my sig, marriage unfortunately (or rather, the "official sanction for it") isn't available.

    For one thing, most people are just anti-gun by default. It's easier to be anti-gun than pro-gun.

    Unfortunately, too many gay and bisexual men seem to be blithering bliss ninnies. Makes for a lonely existance. :(
     
  12. TallPine

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    Not anti - but not really comfortable with guns. Raised in a weird religious home where they didn't even believe in voting (geez!).

    She has gone shooting a few times and is actually pretty good (I think women are better natural shots)

    Hardest part is convincing her that SHE should be able and willing to defend herself and kids with a gun if situation arose. She doesn't have any problem with me defending the family.
     
  13. Chipperman

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    Wife was a rabid anti when I first met her. She's coming around some. Her biggest problem with my guns in the house now is the safety of our children. I agree that it is an important issue, and have taken many steps to ensure there are no accidents. I am hoping that she will come around more when the kids are old enough to begin shooting with me.

    She still feels that the world would be a better place if guns did not exist. :(
     
  14. doseyclwn

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    Hmmmmmmmmmm. Maybe I just don't know that many gay men, but all of them that I know are either pro-gun or neutral.
     
  15. HS/LD

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    My wife owns more handguns than I do!

    HS/LD
     
  16. dairycreek

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    My wife is very much anti gun!

    And has been for the 42 years we have been married. My wife is a retired nurse and worked for most of our married life. Worked a lot in the ER and saw, on many occasions, just what a gun can do to a human being. Affected her deeply and made her anti gun. On the other hand, she know how much I love guns and shooting sports. So, long ago, we reached an arrangment that she would not interfere with my guns and hobby I would be discrete about it and not "shove them in her face" as it were. Has worked out for 42 years. Marriage always requires compromises. Good shooting:)
     
  17. 22x9

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    Yes. She is afraid that my "unloaded, trigger locked, stored in a safe with 2 locks" firearms are gonna unlock the ammo safe, load their respective magazines, load themselves, rack their own slides and accidentally shoot her, the kids, the neighbors, the grandparents and everyone else.

    I think that about sums it up.
     
  18. Ebbtide

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    I think I'm married to her sister:)
     
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    Wife is pretty cool about my having guns. Her father, God rest him, was an avid shooter and a gunsmith. My wife only has a problem if I start buying too much stuff and upsetting the budget.

    She says she will go to the range with me and I am trying to convince her to get her CCW.
     
  20. Carlos Cabeza

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    Yeah but I have converted her to see it my way :D HAHA ! (Don't tell her I said that) It took alot of patience and lots of understanding...............And the fact that there has been several burst-in robbery/rapes near our home. There was one two blocks away some goblin beat and raped/robbed an 80 year old woman. That has a way of opening up the "What if" in all but the STUPIDIST people......
     
  21. 10-Ring

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    I was :banghead: :cuss: :evil:
     
  22. ball3006

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    If I keep buying more guns....

    she probably will turn into one..........chris3
     
  23. Kframe

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    She wasn't so much anti, as misinformed.
    Was ignorant to the types and powerlevel of guns, destructive capability and so on.
    But, she's a good student, and now loves her Glock 19 and Ruger .22/45.
    :) :) :)
    "Honey, we should go out to dinner and then go to the range."
    God, I love hearing that!
    :) :) :)
    -Kframe
     
  24. mpthole

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    My GF doesn't really have a problem with me owning and shooting as a hobby. She does get a little perturbed if that's all I talk about, especially when I go on a :cuss: about guns & politics. ;)
    This is the part I just do not understand. For my GF and me, of course we don't have kids, but regardless - she would rather be completely unarmed/defenseless in her apartment when I'm not there than buy her own or at least let me leave one for her.
     
  25. Blackhawk

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    No. Stayed within my species.
     
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