Have you thought about a standard, regular ol' 9X18 Makarov? I mean the pistol, not the caliber. It's DA/SA, cheap to buy and very cheap to feed, flat, concealable and as dependable as any revolver. They just don't jam. Clean up takes only a few minutes and they're also very accurate. They are extremely pleasant to shoot. Competency comes quickly with this gun. Recoil is negligible; you shouldn't have any flinch issues at all. And, btw, 9X18 is a bit more of an effective round than a .380.