This ties into some of the “unarmed assailant” threads. I live about six miles down a dirt road in a very rural area. No cell phone service at all. On my way to the dump one morning I passed a car on the side of the road with a couple standing beside the car, clearly having some sort of argument. I continued driving and saw through my rear view mirror that the woman was now seated in the car and the man was leaning in and flailing his arms at her. Thinking he was hitting her I turned around and drove back.
Although I have a CCW I don’t generally carry (I always did in Denver, but Maine is pretty quiet). I do have a revolver in a shoulder holster in my console so I tucked the revolver in my belt, grabbed my pepperspray and went to make sure she was alright. The woman was crying and I asked if she was OK. The man responded that they were fine and told me to take off. I said I wasn’t asking him, and repeated the question. He got more belligerent and told me to mind my own business. I ignored him and asked if he had hit her and she responded no. (there were papers scattered on the ground, which may have been what the flailing was about). At that point he started advancing toward me and told me to mind my own business before he “did something he didn’t want to do.” I suddenly found myself in a VERY uncomfortable situation. I was absolutely terrified…not of him but of the revolver I had on my hip. The guy was two inches shorter and probably ten pounds lighter than me and in lousy shape. He was clearly all mouth and no moves. I train regularly in MMA and have absolutely no doubt I could have destroyed him. In fact I’d have been more than willing to roll around with him if I wasn’t armed. (YMMV…MMA is for people who don’t mind throwing punches.) But with that revolver in my belt there was no way I could let him contact me. It wasn’t even in a holster and would almost certainly have come loose. If he tried to mix it up I would have no choice but to draw on him.
Thank God for pepper spray! I pointed it at him with my left hand from about four feet away and told him he’d suck down the whole can if he didn’t stop. Fortunately he believed me and backed up. Anyway the rest was just a bit of him challenging me to put down the pepper spray and fight and me making sure the girl was alright. She thanked me for stopping but said he hadn’t hit her and she didn’t need a ride or the police so I retreated and left.
All in all it was a very sobering experience. The kid wasn’t a serious assailant, just an unarmed punk with a bad temper. I REALLY didn’t want to escalate things by drawing a gun, but if I had not had the pepperspray the kid would definitely have tried to fight and I would have had no choice. I couldn't retreat until I was satisfied he wasn't hurting her, so my options would have been very limited. It would have resulted in a police report in the best case and a shooting in the worst. Far more drama than was necessary for the situation.
I’ve always thought it’s a good idea to have a less-lethal option when carrying but this confirmed it. I will never carry a handgun without pepperspray from now on. Has anyone else had a similar experience where having a ccw actually felt like more of a handicap than a help?
Although I have a CCW I don’t generally carry (I always did in Denver, but Maine is pretty quiet). I do have a revolver in a shoulder holster in my console so I tucked the revolver in my belt, grabbed my pepperspray and went to make sure she was alright. The woman was crying and I asked if she was OK. The man responded that they were fine and told me to take off. I said I wasn’t asking him, and repeated the question. He got more belligerent and told me to mind my own business. I ignored him and asked if he had hit her and she responded no. (there were papers scattered on the ground, which may have been what the flailing was about). At that point he started advancing toward me and told me to mind my own business before he “did something he didn’t want to do.” I suddenly found myself in a VERY uncomfortable situation. I was absolutely terrified…not of him but of the revolver I had on my hip. The guy was two inches shorter and probably ten pounds lighter than me and in lousy shape. He was clearly all mouth and no moves. I train regularly in MMA and have absolutely no doubt I could have destroyed him. In fact I’d have been more than willing to roll around with him if I wasn’t armed. (YMMV…MMA is for people who don’t mind throwing punches.) But with that revolver in my belt there was no way I could let him contact me. It wasn’t even in a holster and would almost certainly have come loose. If he tried to mix it up I would have no choice but to draw on him.
Thank God for pepper spray! I pointed it at him with my left hand from about four feet away and told him he’d suck down the whole can if he didn’t stop. Fortunately he believed me and backed up. Anyway the rest was just a bit of him challenging me to put down the pepper spray and fight and me making sure the girl was alright. She thanked me for stopping but said he hadn’t hit her and she didn’t need a ride or the police so I retreated and left.
All in all it was a very sobering experience. The kid wasn’t a serious assailant, just an unarmed punk with a bad temper. I REALLY didn’t want to escalate things by drawing a gun, but if I had not had the pepperspray the kid would definitely have tried to fight and I would have had no choice. I couldn't retreat until I was satisfied he wasn't hurting her, so my options would have been very limited. It would have resulted in a police report in the best case and a shooting in the worst. Far more drama than was necessary for the situation.
I’ve always thought it’s a good idea to have a less-lethal option when carrying but this confirmed it. I will never carry a handgun without pepperspray from now on. Has anyone else had a similar experience where having a ccw actually felt like more of a handicap than a help?