matsaleh
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Not that I'm whipped or anything (that I'd admit to)...
A little background: when my wife and I started our relationship about 18 years ago, we were both anti-gun (yes, we all make mistakes). Over the years, we have both come to our senses, me a little faster than her. I think we've done pretty well, considering there was a time when "no gun will ever cross my doorstep" to me having a few handguns and a CHL and carrying daily. She even wants to buy me a nice carry holster for a present soon.
But, when I talk about getting a rifle - specifically an AK - she balks... hard. When I ask her why, she gives me some pretty vague protestations, and turns it back on me to give her a "good reason" why I need an AK. Well, I have lots of what I think are good reasons: home defense (but you have the handguns for that), target shooting (but you don't need a rifle for that), etc... I have no interest in hunting, so that argument is out. When I mention that I need to be able to take out targets at the end of our street when the SHTF, she gets this look of disbelief, like that could never happen!
She comes back to me with, "get whatever handguns you want - get a .44 magnum if you want, but I don't want you having a gun like that (AK)." So, for now, I'm taking her up on that while trying to figure out this anti-AK thing. I'm sure it has something to do with the whole machine-gun image and all, but I hesitate to press her on it, since she really has come a long way towards accepting my gun-oriented lifestyle.
I'm sure I could make an ??? of myself and throw my weight around and stamp my foot, and eventually force the issue, regardless of what she thinks. But, we have built our relationship on mutual respect and trust, and I think that is a big part of why we have been together as long as we have. So I'd rather work on convincing her, rather than coercing her, to my point of view. Since the evolution in her point of view has followed my own over the years, lagging one or two years behind mine, maybe it's just a matter of time.
I'm wondering if any of you long-time married types have had to make similar sales pitches on such issues, and if so, what did you do that worked?
Thanks, and cheers!
A little background: when my wife and I started our relationship about 18 years ago, we were both anti-gun (yes, we all make mistakes). Over the years, we have both come to our senses, me a little faster than her. I think we've done pretty well, considering there was a time when "no gun will ever cross my doorstep" to me having a few handguns and a CHL and carrying daily. She even wants to buy me a nice carry holster for a present soon.
But, when I talk about getting a rifle - specifically an AK - she balks... hard. When I ask her why, she gives me some pretty vague protestations, and turns it back on me to give her a "good reason" why I need an AK. Well, I have lots of what I think are good reasons: home defense (but you have the handguns for that), target shooting (but you don't need a rifle for that), etc... I have no interest in hunting, so that argument is out. When I mention that I need to be able to take out targets at the end of our street when the SHTF, she gets this look of disbelief, like that could never happen!
She comes back to me with, "get whatever handguns you want - get a .44 magnum if you want, but I don't want you having a gun like that (AK)." So, for now, I'm taking her up on that while trying to figure out this anti-AK thing. I'm sure it has something to do with the whole machine-gun image and all, but I hesitate to press her on it, since she really has come a long way towards accepting my gun-oriented lifestyle.
I'm sure I could make an ??? of myself and throw my weight around and stamp my foot, and eventually force the issue, regardless of what she thinks. But, we have built our relationship on mutual respect and trust, and I think that is a big part of why we have been together as long as we have. So I'd rather work on convincing her, rather than coercing her, to my point of view. Since the evolution in her point of view has followed my own over the years, lagging one or two years behind mine, maybe it's just a matter of time.
I'm wondering if any of you long-time married types have had to make similar sales pitches on such issues, and if so, what did you do that worked?
Thanks, and cheers!