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In an Eastern religions class in college I learned something the Buddha taught, which is to be detached, and it was explained like this: If someone offers you a present and you don't accept it, the present stays with the giver. Similarly, if someone offers you an insult and you don't accept it, the insult (and any pain it might cause) stays with the giver. On the other hand, if you accept the insult it will hurt. Further, you can choose whether to accept the insult into your heart or to ignore it, and thus choose whether to be hurt or to be unaffected.
So over the years I've practiced being detached from what stupid or insulting things people occasionally say to me, and thus their words do not trigger an emotional response in me, leaving me free to either ignore them or take action as appropriate: but with me in control of my actions rather than being triggered by my emotions.
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