Darth Ruger
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I don't hate the institution of marriage. But the sacred institution of marriage is worthless and becomes a prison when two people that really aren't right for each other ignore the warning signs and get married and end up getting divorced later because they don't have the strength to do what they know is the right thing to do.
I watched my brother do it. I watched my sister do it twice. My own wife did it once before me and learned her lesson the hard way. One of her sisters did it. Another sister is in her second marriage that's even worse than the first one. She actually slipped once and admitted to my wife that she knew they shouldn't get married, but otherwise continually tries to defend her marriage, and she's more miserable every day. Too many people today spend their time justifying and rationalizing something they know isn't right, rather than listening to that primitive thing we all have within us called instinct. It's there to protect us. Why ignore it?
When a problem crops up after the fact, that's one thing. But when someone knows beforehand that it's not right and proceeds with it anyway, it invariably ends up being the one time in their life that they wished they had listened to their gut instinct. I came close once, but the "this is wrong, don't do it" feeling was just getting stronger and stronger. I finally listened to it instead of denying it, and once it was over, I felt so relieved. I knew I did the right thing, and now I've been with the right woman for the last ten years. We never would have met if I had married the one I knew inside was wrong for me.
It's not about hating the institution of marriage, it's about having the common sense to listen to your instincts and having the strength to face the truth.
Notice the point of the story when he posted it: "My future wife..." His instincts are telling him something about this relationship and he knows it.
I watched my brother do it. I watched my sister do it twice. My own wife did it once before me and learned her lesson the hard way. One of her sisters did it. Another sister is in her second marriage that's even worse than the first one. She actually slipped once and admitted to my wife that she knew they shouldn't get married, but otherwise continually tries to defend her marriage, and she's more miserable every day. Too many people today spend their time justifying and rationalizing something they know isn't right, rather than listening to that primitive thing we all have within us called instinct. It's there to protect us. Why ignore it?
When a problem crops up after the fact, that's one thing. But when someone knows beforehand that it's not right and proceeds with it anyway, it invariably ends up being the one time in their life that they wished they had listened to their gut instinct. I came close once, but the "this is wrong, don't do it" feeling was just getting stronger and stronger. I finally listened to it instead of denying it, and once it was over, I felt so relieved. I knew I did the right thing, and now I've been with the right woman for the last ten years. We never would have met if I had married the one I knew inside was wrong for me.
It's not about hating the institution of marriage, it's about having the common sense to listen to your instincts and having the strength to face the truth.
Notice the point of the story when he posted it: "My future wife..." His instincts are telling him something about this relationship and he knows it.