Jeff, you wrote (sorry, new to board, not sure how to get quotes just yet) "He is not a threat just standing there."
I posted the story about the homeowner in Indiana last week that had the same situation. He stood there with an intruder at gunpoint that wasn't a threat, and everyone in his house died because of it. Women, kids, everyone. The second intruder came around the corner and killed the homeowner, then killed 3 generations of his family. Things are rarely as simple as they seem, as evidenced by the many scenarios presented in this thread. To categorically rule out a threat because the person in front of you "seems" to be compliant is one dimensional, and dangerous at best.
The fact of life is that a person will have a very limited amount of time to decipher what is going on, formulate a plan and act on it. You won't EVER have 100% of the information you would like to have when forced to make your decision. You have to make decisions with imcomplete information, or make no decision at all. At some point an individual has to act. After reading about the deal in Indiana, I am going to err on the side of living. Consider the cost of inaction. I'd be willing to bet the guy in Indiana would love to have a "do-over", I'm sure his sweet kids would have loved a different outcome as well. One to the head and one to the chest is no way for a child to die.
I'm 36 years old and I've never had an "intruder" in my home. Not a relative, not a friend, not a lost wandering soul, and with continued vigilence I doubt I ever will. Most people with enough brain cells to rub together (prudent man) realize that you don't enter another persons home without securing permission first.
Those that operate their homes in a manner that lets people come and go as they please (ie neighbors, kids friends, cousins, wifes friends etc) certainly have more to think about when they encounter someone in their house. My house is a hard target, always locked, lit, and secure. Everyone that knows me has the common decency and common sense to not just magically show up in my kitchen unannounced. If they did have an out of character day and appeared unannounced, it would not be that big a deal as they would be instantly recognizeable. Pretty simple.
In my case, if you are in my home, and I don't know you, you've got some 'splainin to do, and not much time to do it. My kids need a dad the rest of their life. Second place is a body bag, and I don't plan to be in it.
I posted the story about the homeowner in Indiana last week that had the same situation. He stood there with an intruder at gunpoint that wasn't a threat, and everyone in his house died because of it. Women, kids, everyone. The second intruder came around the corner and killed the homeowner, then killed 3 generations of his family. Things are rarely as simple as they seem, as evidenced by the many scenarios presented in this thread. To categorically rule out a threat because the person in front of you "seems" to be compliant is one dimensional, and dangerous at best.
The fact of life is that a person will have a very limited amount of time to decipher what is going on, formulate a plan and act on it. You won't EVER have 100% of the information you would like to have when forced to make your decision. You have to make decisions with imcomplete information, or make no decision at all. At some point an individual has to act. After reading about the deal in Indiana, I am going to err on the side of living. Consider the cost of inaction. I'd be willing to bet the guy in Indiana would love to have a "do-over", I'm sure his sweet kids would have loved a different outcome as well. One to the head and one to the chest is no way for a child to die.
I'm 36 years old and I've never had an "intruder" in my home. Not a relative, not a friend, not a lost wandering soul, and with continued vigilence I doubt I ever will. Most people with enough brain cells to rub together (prudent man) realize that you don't enter another persons home without securing permission first.
Those that operate their homes in a manner that lets people come and go as they please (ie neighbors, kids friends, cousins, wifes friends etc) certainly have more to think about when they encounter someone in their house. My house is a hard target, always locked, lit, and secure. Everyone that knows me has the common decency and common sense to not just magically show up in my kitchen unannounced. If they did have an out of character day and appeared unannounced, it would not be that big a deal as they would be instantly recognizeable. Pretty simple.
In my case, if you are in my home, and I don't know you, you've got some 'splainin to do, and not much time to do it. My kids need a dad the rest of their life. Second place is a body bag, and I don't plan to be in it.