Another bullet that appears occasionally not on backorder are Sierra Powerjackets. In my highly informal testing
they expand VERY well in denimed environments in 9 and .45. Unfortunately, they also fragment violently if driven quickly. For a low penetration load, I use upper end dose of Titegroup under a 115gr Sierra JHP in 9mm, a LARGE dose of Viht 3N37 to replicate the lower flash Corbon loading using the same bullet. For .45, mild doses of Unique can be lower flash (close to middle, 230gr, lighter bullets flash horribly as they need more powder). My HP38 load using the old Hodgdon +P data for .45 is phenominal. Used to use a 185gr Gold Dot (didn't feed in my 1911 well, but Glock 30 perfectly), switched to 230gr Gold Dots or Sierra Powerjackets.
I am not a huge fan of XTPs in slower combinations. My testing has shown they need quite a bit of velo to open up and are confounded easily (regardless of velo) by denim. While not an end all in my book, it is still something I avoid.
Magtech component "Gold" JHPs are pretty nice and cheap too when you find them online. One can easily replicate factory Magtech defensive ammo. They also have an all copper component bullet like the Barnes, but they are MUCH cheaper and have performed well in my tests (but are usually light for caliber, I.E. 77gr 9mm JHP as opposed to Barne's 115gr). They still penetrate deep and open despite 4 layers of denim and 2 layers of bathtowel (on top another) into saturated sand (the ultimate test IMHO, not for terminal performance, but for seeing if it will clog).
Also, most cases where I have seen handloaded ammo used against the shooter were questionable cases regardless. The 10mm case, the guy went psycho and attached without provocation, he wasn't convicted based on his ammo... Just throwing that out there, sorry to the OP, this isn't helping...