I didn't have any quarrel with anyone I dated or married. (I've been married 3X.) In the process of getting acquainted we had lots of conversations where I openly shared my beliefs, hopes, dreams, and plans. My wife these days enjoys shooting handguns with me and she wouldn't dream of interfering with my hobby/passion. Shooting is not her go-to pastime, but she enjoys it and wouldn't have considered shooting until she lived with me...30+ years now, I finally got it right. Here's a good story:
In my profession as a clinical psychotherapist (now retired), I did a lot of couple counseling. A newly married couple came in seeking counseling about the increase in arguments they were having. One of the arguments was that he enjoyed hunting and did so with his buddies on the weekends. She said to him during the first session and I quote......."Well, we are married now, so it's time to grow up and quit that nonsense." They eventually had the marriage annulled and went their separate ways.