rainbowbob
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So your approach was to EDUCATE your wife to a better understanding of the facts. That is certainly a more appropriate approach than softening your convictions to satisfy her misperceptions.
Well said.
I was married for over 30 years before I came to the conclusion/conviction that I would go armed whenever I left the house. It did NOT go over well with my wife (or my married daughter for that matter).
They brought up all kinds of hysterical, irrational arguments and the heat was pretty bad for a while. Once I figured out that no amount of logic presented in a loud enough voice to drown out her hysteria was going to do either of us any good - I just shut up and carried it concealed. Meanwhile, I have done my best to educate her and myself.
After very nearly being assaulted by a young hot-head while strolling in the park with wife, grandson and dog - she had to admit that the pocket pistol (which remained in my pocket with my hand on wrapped around the stocks) may have made the difference. Shortly after that - at the same park with the grandson again - we encountered a man and his pit-bull who was identified and captured an hour later as the badly wanted insane serial butcher in our city.
The subject of my carrying never comes up any more.
In time, perhaps, your wife will relax when she understands you aren't looking for a gun fight, and are well trained, sober, responsible, etc. It may not work for you, but "don't ask - don't tell" is how it evolved for us.
And by-the-way...this is one of the most common threads on THR, as it is such a common problem. Kudos to all for not ONE post insisting that you divorce your wife immediately. That is usually how these threads end up.
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