How to tell the spouse about new purchase

[hso]

The only problem will be if we have kids and she becoms a stay at home mom.

There shouldn't be any problem there since a stay at home mom offsets expenses equivalent to after tax income and contributes financially in myriad ways and should be compensated instead of being treated as a dependent minor child. What do you expect her to buy firearms accessories as birthday presents with???

 

[jackpinesavages]

I'm with Six. As long as you are not missing house payments... I call them investments, which they are: buy low and sell high if you ever do. I rarely sell but to friends in need.

 

[shiftyer1]

I buy my guns and she never knows a new one followed me home, they all look the same to her. Although I do some buying and selling and also swapping so she never knows if it costs anything or not. It seems to work well.

 

[Dnaltrop]

My wife and I operate on 100%, painful honesty...

It's less pain than the inevitable fights dishonesty would bring. 16 years together, going strong.

However, she knows about my gun money stash, she knows if absolutely needed for house bills I'll sacrifice my cache of cash. She also avoids doing this as I have few other outlets that get me out of the house.

Hiding a new gun is the furthest thing from my mind... I'd likely be at the counter at the LGS, on the phone with her, with her berating me for wasting her time calling her without having actually bought the gun already... and asking me when our next range trip is.

 

[Sav .250]

Man up!

 

[JustinJ]

"My wife and I operate on 100%, painful honesty..."

Does that include, "do these make me look fat" type questions?

 

[jcwit]

"My wife and I operate on 100%, painful honesty..."

Does that include, "do these make me look fat" type questions?

Yes if need be, nor am I the typical Hollywood super looking dude either.

Married life is good, can't imagine living alone.

 

[Ala Dan]

As They Say-

"Its better too ask for forgiveness, than it is too ask for permission"~!

 

[Dnaltrop]

Justin, she's down 40 lbs after 3 kids... a way to go still but it's going the correct direction

She doesn't ask that question, because she knows the answer is "No, your fat makes you look fat"... and our relationship is such that she'd get mad at me for lying to her about it. ^^
She also barely uses makeup beyond covering a blemish or two when they pop up. More money for shooting

She's basically a Guy with girl bits... I married my best friend with a lush, hour-and-a-half glass figure. (classical greek figure... look at some renaissance paintings if you don't know the body type)

Why yes, I AM gloating a tiny bit...Sorry about that... She's one in a flippin' billion though .

 

[danprkr]

I have a separate budget, and as long as I fund the household budget first she doesn't even really want to know. Other than occasionally I'll be working on, cleaning, whatever on one, and she'll want to know what it is, when I got it etc. But that's just curiosity, not judgement.

 

[lucky-gunner]

My wife doesn't give me too much grief over my firearms purchases. I can tell if I've gotten a bit out of hand and need to cool off from purchasing from the different reactions.

She's taken the view point that our kids/grandkids (years from now) will get them in the end. I'm lucky that she's into shooting also.

 

[O C]

Go out, get rip roaring drunk, come home, kick the door open, and announce very loudly "I'M GONNA GET SOME LOVIN', OR I'M GONNA BUY A GUN. WHAT'S IT GONNA BE, DARLIN?" Worked every time fo me......untill.....

 

[Magichelmt]

My wife and I have a $200 rule. If it doesn't cost more than $200 we don't bother asking each other. We both work and our bills are paid. I don't keep any secrets from her. She knows that I am looking for a certain guns and when I find a deal I just pick it up. I love my wife!

 

[Shienhausser]

It's your money, are all the bills paid? If yes then if she doesn't like it tell her to get the f out.

Separate bank accounts guys. Separate bank accounts. I will do w/e I please with my hard earned money as long as all is taken care of. She can tell me to not buy something the day she starts working my job for me.

 

[El Caballo Loco]

I used to work with a guy that had TONS of guns but only let his wife see 10-15 at a time. She never really knew what he had, she just thought he traded a lot.

 

[RT55]

My brother takes the ploy of sitting in the living room and cleaning the newest one. When the wife walks in and asks "Is that a new gun?" he says "I've had it for a while." The statement is true, and doesn't really answer the question. She rolls her eyes and walks away.